Oedipus Complex - Puyallup,WA

He doesn't want to see you naked he just wants to see a woman naked, he is just curious. He heard this interesting story so he wants to see it acted out.

What you need to do is explain that is not an actual courtship ritual and it is inappropriate for him to ask to have it acted out. If you don't sit down with him next will be his babysitter, aunts, nice lady next door and you will be known as the woman with the six year old pervert!

After reading Suz's response, yes, do not make him feel bad or make it personal. Just focus on explaining the inaccuracy of the story while including that women will not just dance naked for men, they just don't, whoever told him the story was embellishing.

What do you mean by early awareness? He heard a story and is discussing it. If he hadn't heard the story he wouldn't be aware. If I am told about a great product that my neighbor hasn't that doesn't make me early aware, it means I was told it first.

With this post and your one before you need to pull yourself away from some of this. You are not reacting well. Any parent who just heard this story would not have immediately jumped to Oedipus complex! You do get that was a seriously irrational leap? You think your coworker is in love with you even though you have never lived as a couple, I doubt you have even farted in front of each other. That isn't love, that is infatuation! Now you think your son is in love with you sexually. Perhaps you need to discuss with your therapist why you feel you need to be sexually loved, what is missing that you need to feel. Do this before whatever is going on messes up your kids as well.

Listen at 6 they still think some day they'll grow up and marry their mom, they don't get it! I think you just need to continue talking to him and explaining that we keep our bodies private, etc. Explain that we start covering up while we're in the company of the opposite sex and that our bodies are private and no one should touch them, etc.

Just from this bit of info it doesn't appear that he's more aware than other kids his age and it's just unfortunate that he heard that bit of info about naked dancing, although it is kind of hilarious! ;) I wouldn't worry too much, just approach it matter of factly and let him know that it's not okay to naked dance with each other (or anyone until he's married for real! ;)

it's a little eeky, i'm sure, but you know what i'm mostly taking from this? that your 6 year old has a great open relationship with you where he's comfortable and confident talking to you, that he's not subconsciously shamed into silence.
most boys do (so i'm told) have these sorts of thoughts, and i'm sure girls want to grow up and marry their daddies too. it may be the OCD or the separation that are bringing your son's up a bit from the depths, but it really is good that you have kept the lines of communication open with him so that this CAN be discussed.
i doubt you can 'steer him' away from any particular thought, and any attempt to do so will probably backfire. talking to a counselor is an excellent idea, but in the meantime i'd treat it very lightly and casually. let him talk and respond to him but not in any sort of alarmed or anxious fashion.
'oh honey, who told you that? :::::::light laugh::::::::: marriage is a lot of things, but that's just kinda silly. no, we don't dance naked together in our family. our bodies are private. i only look at yours for medical reasons, and you don't see naked ladies at all until you're grown up. sorry! and now it's time for you to clean the garage.'
quick caveat, for families who do go au naturel this would not apply. my boys grew up around nudity so there was no frisson for them in seeing mom dancing naked. :)
khairete
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Just don't go there-- please. An Oedipus complex, this is not.

This is curiosity. He's got access to one woman he would feel safe enough to direct this request to. You. That said, don't take it personally. When my son was three or four and asked 'where do babies come out', I told him, and then he said "Will you show me on your body?" Nope, but I have some good books on the subject.... he sees me naked all the time, by the way.

I agree with Jo-- there's a lot going on in your life. Sounds like you could use a bit of counseling support yourself. Often, parents will focus on sending children to counseling alone, however, I think if there's something going on with the kids, the parents need support too. Especially if the structure of the family has changed. Separation IS a BIG deal to kids, but I don't think that the separation per se is why he's asking what he's asking.

You have a very curious little boy. Be glad he came to you with his misconceptions. You can set them to rest gently, let him know that his friend told him a very silly pretend story and let it go.

I strongly believe that this behavior has nothing to do with sex. He's just repeating what he's heard and is curious about how it plays out. Calm conversations about how this is not appropriate is all that's needed.

Are you serious? I don't think you meant to diagnose your son as being sexually attracted to his mother. That's... absurd. Did you expect not to get negativity with that?

This is a normal curiosity. Just because he overheard some conversation and wants to discuss it with you does not mean he's 'aware' of sex. He has no idea what the naked ladies dancing means, he has no idea the connotation involved.

And if you seriously think your 6-year-old is more aware of your 15-year-old, you've got some awareness issues yourself.

I don't think his questions have anything to do with thinking of you sexually. He heard something at school and is trying to put it into some sort of real context for his world.

There's nothing wrong with telling him "no, I won't dance naked for you, that's not really something everyone does." Answer his questions as honestly as you can, within a context he'll understand.