T., my prayers go out and up for you. Don't wait to do something different to relief your stress and anger. If you do not see improvement with over the counter remedies in a few weeks you need to go to a Doctor or Health Practitioner.
Being a busy mom, wife and pet giver means you are seriously working full time to care for your family and pets.
Perhaps a part of the problem is you are probably not having as much fun as you did when you were teaching. 5-6 yr old's are a blast to teach and play with, without that contact you may be actually be lonely in a full house.
All work and no play makes can create very depressing days... Are you scheduling some time each week to work on a craft project or to paint? Invite a friend over to craft with you.
Do you realize the human body is not designed to function at 3 am. It naturally wants to be resting and repairing. Just being tired and on the go everyday can make anyone cranky. You may have to go to normal hours to help your system repair.
Remember to BREATH! Stop what you are doing, take a deep breath through your nose (inhale all the way to your toes)then slowly release (do this as many times as it takes to calm your system)
Life and family can and will drive you crazy if you let it. The dogs will get better with age but the kids will get worse so you need to think positive about who you are and what your job is. For every negative thought is a positive just waiting to get out. Take time to find the positive things about what you do (focus on them) Do not fall for the stinking thinking.
The "What If" way of thinking is right up there with stinking thinking...not productive or positive so do not waste your time with it. You need to let it go. If you can change it, then change it...if you can't change it, then it's not worrying about.
There are books on personal development, stress management and healthy alternatives, make sure your diet and lifestyle are healthy. You are not alone and you have the power to make changes. While at home schedule time for personal development and education.
Part of my personal solution for managing my stress is working part time from home as a nutrition specialist and Herbalife distributor. I also attend www.achs.edu as a Holistic Health Practitioner student.
If you are interested, I would suggest your trying Relax Now and Sleep Now. You can view my product line on my website www.herbaliva.com
Hang in There Baby!