Not Sure How to Feel :/

As hard as it is, dont be too hard on her. At least she told you. Its way more than a lot of parents are dealing with. Some dont find out what the kids have done until after a whole lot more. She is showing that she is trying to connect with you and show you that she is trying to be open.

Ask her how it was, what she was feeling, is she guilty and this is why she is telling you? Is there anything else you should know?

Try talking to her calmly, because she did put in the first effort to tell you. It was probably really hard for her to admit that to you, so give her a little credit.

Best wishes.

keep that communication open and honest, do not make her run from you and run from this honesty. be proud that your hard work has paid off and she feels comfortable enough to talk to you about it. now lay out the rules for this behaivior and let her know what is expected.

She did tell you! Be realistic, Mom, would she call you, joint in hand, and say, "Oh, hey Mom, I'm about to try a joint. Ya dig?"

I tried pot for the first time at 17 too. She did tell you. That's mighty big of her. Did you ask her what she thought of it? Did you ask her if she intended to use again? She probably thought you would be disappointed. How did you react?

You definitely should have a lengthy discussion about this with her. Make sure that you tell her how proud of her you are for coming to you and being honest about this. Sounds like you have a really great relationship with your daughter. How awesome is that?

Hey, at least she told you - now it's time to talk about it. Ask her why she waited to tell you and why she felt the need to try it in the first place. My guess is she knows it wasn't the right thing to do, she's bothered by it and she really wants you to tell her NO. My stepsons are the same age and have been caught twice by their mom for smoking pot without telling her anything about it. Their excuse is that 90% of the kids in their school smoke it (according to them) and when they are with their friends, there's always a joint being passed around, so they just go along with it.

When I was 12 and hitting puberty, my mother made this big speech about how if I ever needed to talk to her about sex, or birth control, or whatever, I could come to her. Then I was 18, had my first real boyfriend, and was thinking about going on birth control because I was thinking about having sex, I came to her and told her and she totally freaked out. You can be sure I never talked to her about it again (and ended up going on my own to the student health care center where I was in college and getting on the pill on my own). So whatever you do, remain calm, make it clear that you are disappointed she felt the need to still try it, but you are glad she decided to still come to you. She might be looking for you to tell her what she needs to do now. Tell her what your expectations are and make it clear what the consequences will be if she chooses to not listen.

If she just told this to you 10 minutes ago, then get off the computer, and go have a heart-to-heart with her. Tell her you are glad she was honest with you but she cannot do this ever again - she needs to understand the potential consequences of continuing to smoke pot. For one thing, t's illegal and if she gets caught by someone other than you, there could be ramifications as far as driver's licenses and college scholarships. It may be addictive and lead to other drug use (I know others may disagree). And for me personally, every person I've ever known who is a habitual pot smoker has not gotten very far in life - it's like they have no ambition because they are just constantly overly mellowed-out on pot and end up not achieving anything. They don't go to college, they work dead-end jobs, and live in crappy places (or are still living with their parents). Her having some concrete goals in mind (college, career, etc.) might help if she realizes that smoking pot won't get her closer to those goals. Also, underage drinking and experimenting with sex could potentially screw up her future as well. I also would be paying closer attention to who she is hanging out with and what they are up to since sometimes at this age they can still be strongly influenced by their peers and less by their parents (as seems to be the case with my stepsons).

My DD is only 3 but I am already telling her "Good choices cause good things to happen and bad choices cause bad things to happen." Your daughter needs to start taking responsibility for the choices she makes and how her life turns out from here on.

kudos to you for having an open relationship with your daughter. Be very proud that she confessed.

Flat-out ask her if there is anything else you should know. Ask her to consider taking a drug test for you. &....on another subject, I hope she's on BC!

I agree with the other moms, I think is great that she did told you, I think she obviously knew she did something wrong (which is why she didn't told you before) but she is telling you now, and it must be for a reason, she may want to stop, she may feel that she let you down and is trying to gain your trust his back, or maybe she even need you right now, maybe she used because she has a problem that she hasn't tell you yet.
This is a good time for you to talk, I am glad she open the communication, I am not saying that you shouldn't feel upset, but I think that what comes out of this it is bigger then what she did.
Talk to her about consequences, but also appreciate that she did trusted you, and keep an eye on her.

Maybe she is testing the waters to see if how you react. I didn't tell my mom either when I tried it, we also had an open relationship. There are some things that maybe she feels that you just don't need to know. Testing the waters to see how you react when something else might come up that you are not proud about. Talk to your daughter and tell her how you feel. If anything it might make you closer. Good Luck.

She is probably never going to ask your permission for stuff that she knows is wrong. I think it is pretty good that she even told you-it says something for your relationship. Hopefully she was just trying it and does not use it regularly.

It is ok to not know how to feel. The important thing is she told you, now what to do with that information...don't be too hard on her. I realize that a lot of people will down play how it is just marajuana and not that big of a deal, but you should seriously talk about consequences...she is 17 and if she was caught, she could be tried as an adult. I found out my 15 yr old son was using via a phone call from a police officer....it was Terrible. I was scared, I was disappointed...and Luckily it turned out all right, it felt like all he got was a slap on the wrist and some community service hours...but had he been older it would have been so much worse.