I am so not the romantic type of girl, but while i have been pregnant as all moms/ moms to be know i have been very emotional. And my boyfriend has been through it all with me but he has grown very tired of as he calls it whining/ cry babiness we rarely get along with out arguing. I want us to have a nice night together to rekindle how we used to be. My problem is neither of us have a car and since i am so close to my due date going out isnt really an option. We have sex every day (LITERALLY) so thats not a problem. He is always there when i get home so i never have time to set up something. What can i do to create a nice semi romantic date with my boyfriend to show him i appreciate every thing.
Well i ended up ordering chinese food (one of his favorite foods), setting up candles all around the living room. i put our futane matress on the floor since it is broke and wont lay back. Set pillows around it and put in a movie we never saw and he has been dying to watch. When he came home the whole house was dark. I turned off both of our phones so it would just be the two of us. It was nice i had also made a nice card while i was at work and gave it to him with the desert which was cheese cake and ice cream (his favorite). And even though it only lasted alittle bit i could tell he felt good about it.
looks like you got some great ideas, but whatever you do, just stoke his ego a little. I've learned that that can go a very long way. Make him feel like the wonderful man he is. :)
Good for you for wanting to show your appreciation! My last pregnancy, well, I was a flat out b!tch and I knew I was doing it, it was horrible. I couldn't help myself. I'm making up for it now that baby is here, but still... good for you! Before you get home, since he's already there, make him a little gift bag. Go to spencers (I don't remember if you have that store in jersey) and get some adult gag gifts, like those scratch off lottery tickets for back rubs, kisses, etc... massage lotions, board games, WHATEVER. Anything cheesy is fun ;) Also, never underestimate your WORDS. Buy a card and write your thoughts on him, the pregnancy, your unborn child, whatever... let him know that although you've been emotional, it's not his fault and you love him and everything he does for you, and make sure you tell him how proud your are that he's your man, and how excited you are that you are creating this beautiful life, this darling baby together... etc. I could write mushy stuff all day, LOL. Good luck, let us all know how it goes!
If the problem is trying to make dinner without him knowing, how about preparing everything in the morning so that's it's ready when you get home? You could also order food to be delivered if that's available in your area. Food is always good for guys and I know I could be awful during both my pregnancies, so cooking or ordering a great dinner and then doing something both of you enjoy sounds like a perfect plan. The effort and thought will not go unnoticed, even for guys!
The dinner and a movie idea is great while eating dinner you can tell him how much yo appriciate him and care for him.
It's hard being pregnant. Your emotions are all over the place. it gets a little harder once you have the baby but once you figure out your routine it'll all fall into place! Promise.
The most important thing is that you two have to learn how to talk to eachother so you can raise a baby together. communication is number one evan if it's hard to hear. Next time you need to "whine" call your mom or best friend or a sister. they will be more empathetic and it'll be less stress on him. :) Good luck.
I like the note idea...instead of trying to make it ALL a surprise, give him an "invitation" in the morning and then just go ahead and do what you need to do. My husband and I just had valentines day at home and we planned the whole night together , our favorite foods, wine, music, I cooked, he cleaned and helped, he set up a nice table, and so on - it was a team effort - my son went to grandmas and we had a fabulous dinner and a fabulous night that made us remember we do love each other. it doesn't have to all be a surprise. just doing it together is romantic too.
Candles!!!! Food!!!!! Give him a back rub...then turn around. Maybe he'll massage your feet. :)
first of all, kudos to you on the daily sex! That must be because you're not married yet! :) Kidding.
Anyway, cut yourself some slack. You're very pregnant, very emotional, and probably very tired. You should be taking care of yourself, not worrying about how to please the boyfriend. He should be worrying about how to make you comfortable in these last stages of pregnancy.
Everyone goes through those times in relationships too, where you just don't feel connected to your partner anymore, and add a pregnancy and you've got yourself real issues. But like I said, relax and just enjoy your last moments together as a couple before this baby rocks your world! :) Good luck!
Lynsey
Ok, I know that you don't want to hear this, but you need to stop the attitude with him.
We can't use the I'm preg. card all of the time for everything, only sometimes. = )
Take wonderful care of yourself and work on being sweet to him.
You need to rent the movie Fireproof. Watch it together.
Give him what he wants and needs now (sex/love), before the little one comes, because you will need about 6 weeks to heal.
Remember he is a guy and they don't always do everything we wish that they would do for us. So go easy on him.
Give him a reason to stay, don't give him a reason to leave.
I once read, that men want ( a nice & kind wife that can be a great mother to their children and for her to be a wild cat in the bedroom).
Ask him if that is what he wants and watch his face. If he says oh yea, then you know what to do. = )
I wish you the best and I know that you can do it.
Tuck in his pocket a nice note, actually, leave them everywhere he might look.
How about cooking his favorite foods and renting a movie he likes that you normally wouldn't want to watch.
