Not Really a Kid Question More a Personal Question( Sorry About Length)

omgosh, here's my honest response: I want to kick him! Good grief, this is not the 1950s.....we are "woman", hear us roar!

My husband is the same way. He doesn't like my hair unless it's long. I obliged for a long time, mostly because I liked it, too. When I came home one day with a shoulder length cut (it had been past the middle of my back and I grew tired of it.) he was less than tactful about how much he hated it.
Why do they always like it long? THEY don't have to live with it everyday! It looked awful and unhealthy.
Anyway, I told him when he grows his hair to the length of mine, I'll oblige his wish for my hair long. Never happened.
Now, I have the cutest cut EVER and he HATES it. (you guessed it, above the shoulder) Do I care? NO. It's my hair and he should love me even if I'm bald.

So, here is my advice to you: look the way you want to look. Be happy with it, embrace, love it.
If YOU are happy, he should be happy that you are.

You have a lot of good advice. Here is just one more piece. My husband always says he loves my long hair. Its been shoulder length to waist length. I did cut it all off even though he asked me not to. When I got home, he said I was beautiful and he liked my "new" look. Do what you want, own it, and don't apologize for it!

My head = My haircut
Husband's Head = Husband's haircut
It's MY head, not his. If I want my haircut short then it will be, if I want it to grow out then I will grow it out. You are not obligated AT ALL to do what he wants you to do for your hair. Does he tell you how to wear your makeup, what clothes to wear, what to eat? I should hope not!! You are your own person, do as you like.
L.

no. cut your hair the way you like it. Warn him, but tell him it's your hair. I just did this on Friday myself. My husband prefers my hair long and hates change, so I started warning him on Monday that it was going to be shorter. It went from midway down my back to mid neck and permed. He has decided he loves it. Boys are weird.

Girl--it's your hair!!! Do what you want!!! I'm sure you have good taste--and if it doesn't turn out the way you want, it grows fast, right?!?!? Go for it!!!

Look....it's only hair.
The color, the length, it all grows back out. I think you should be able to do what you want. That's my opinion.
It's true that men tend to prefer longer hair, but they aren't the ones who have to keep it up.
My sister tried for years to have long hair, but it's so thin and it just kind of hang. She went for it and got the most sexy short haircut. Her husband was so for it after he saw the finished product. She really looks amazing and he couldn't exactly deny it. She has kept her hair short ever since.
It takes her 10 minutes in the morning and she is a little hottie. It just suits her.
Do what makes you feel pretty and it will rub off on your husband. Even though he thinks it won't.

That's just my opinion.

Best wishes.

ALL men prefer long hair. I think it's all part of the whole Barbie syndrome. It's your hair, cut it how you like. As you said, it grows out quickly, you're not going to have it that way forever, you've had it short before...it's a no brainer.

It's your hair and your decision. Your husband cannot tell you how to wear your hair nor should he. However, what will make YOU happier? Having the exact cut/style you want or knowing your husband finds you sexier? Me personally, I know my husband prefers long hair. Would I like to try out a shorter style? Yes. Will I? No. I will keep some length for him and try different styles to appease my need for change (layers, bangs, etc.). If I were truly unhappy with long hair then I would cut it, but at this stage in my life, I would rather my husband find me sexy than to experiment with my hair.

I dunno- dr. Laura would tell you that you should try to please your man. That is what I try to do in my marriage, It makes me happy to please him.

You are not obligated to keep it long. I know many Mom's will tell you it is your hair, do whatever you want. However, do you want your man to continue to be attracted to you? Men love long hair. My husband tells me it is my hair but he tells me his preference. So in the long run, it is up to you totally what you do with your hair. Why not try a different style with your hair? Maybe get some layers and even some highlights. I like short hair too, but I can live with shoulder length hair... which is what I have.

That would be the day someone (anyone!) told me what to do, or not do, with my hair!

Some men really do hate short hair on women. My husband is one of them. I cut mine pixie in 1998ish. He still makes fun of me for that. I don't mind keeping it long. If it turns him on, it turns me on :). I don't think of it as having to do it for him. I like knowing that my husband is attracted to me. It does not make me feel like a 50's wife.

Um your hair your decision!!! Do what makes you happy with you like you said it grows back!!

You are the one who's wearing your hair. It's yours. Do what you want with it. Are your friends friends with you or your hair? Does your boyfriend love you or your hair? When you get your hair cut save it in a bag. If he makes a big deal about it, give him the bag of hair, tell him that you wish them both all the happiness in the world, then go find someone less shallow that appreciates you for the spectacular woman you are.

I know how you feel. I have no time to style my hair and it's right above my shoulders with outgrown weird layers lol It's that middle stage between super short hair and long hair. I've had everything from hair down to my butt to a short mohawk (really) and I miss my long hair. No one should dictate how you feel comfortable in your own body. If you like your hair a certain way, go for it! If he doesn't keep his hair the way you like it, why should you feel obligated to keep yours the way he likes it? He shouldn't love you for your hair, he should love you for you! Good luck!

Are you sure he is upset about the haircut you want, or the FB display to your friends? Did he know about the haircut before you posted? Or is that how he found out? You said you just had a pixie cut last Oct. and many times before that. How does he react? I assume that he gets over it because he doesn't "hate" short hair, right? So, I would do what makes you feel good about yourself, and if having your hair short does that, then do it! He will only benefit from having a happy SO!!

I've recently been having this conversation with my fiance. My hair is about at my bra strap, but I LOVE Keira Knightley's new haircut, kind of a bob, right under her chin. So I've been toying with the idea of cutting my hair like that... my fiance says go for it. He has told me in the past that he likes my long hair, but he is totally supportive of my trying this new, much shorter style. In fact, I'm the one who can't decide whether to do it, and he's the one telling me it's only hair, it'll grow back if I don't like it!

I understand wanting to feel that your guy sees you as attractive, and if he prefers long hair, I can see why you'd question whether you should cut it. But ultimately, it is your hair, and if you REALLY love the new cut, and really want to try it, then I say go for it, and I'm sure he'll come around. He may never LOVE it, but if he loves you, then it'll be ok!

My response to my husband about having long hair like he preferred was that if he wanted to fix it for me everyday then I would grow out my hair. I, too, prefer short hair and feel like I look better with short hair and my kids agree but my husband says he likes long hair. You didn't mention that you have children but for me after the kids were born, my girls had long hair and mom kept hers short because it was faster and easier to manage. My husband got the long hair he wanted thru his daughters, lol! and I got to wear my hair the way I preferred. Hope this helps!
T.

Cut your hair any way you like it. Your husband loves you for WHO you are, not how your hair is cut.
Not all long hair is beautiful. I know a lady who refuses to cut her hair because she wants to please her husband......and her hair is a stringy mess.

I think that it's pathetic that we as women are expected to "keep a husband happy" with such ridiculous things.
I had super long hair when I married my husband and he didn't want me to cut my hair, but I got it cut anyway and he ended up LOVING the haircut.

Hopefully your husband has better character than some men who pitch a fit over hair length.
Happy hair cut!

My boyfriend is picky about my hair. When he met me I did have long hair. It was to the middle of my back, plus I let it keep growing and it got down to my butt. I finially wanted to chop it off (I used to have a really cute a-line which was a little shorter then my shoulders) and he made such a big deal about it. It loved it, but I never did anything with it because it was too long. He does say he hates short hair, to my SO it's not feminine (no offense to girls with short hair).
He does keep his hair teh way I want it. In fact I am teh one who tells the stylist hwo to cut it. So, I picked the middle of the road. Why? Because I don't want to be unattractive to my partner, he did meet me with short hair, and he keeps his the way I like. So...he will sit next to me and look at hair styles until we agree. I see his point of view, and he see's mine. I have shown him so many hairstyles that are medium length that he is starting to like it now. It's all how you style it, and he never realized that.
Plus he never said I couldn't get it cut as short as i wanted to, he just said I look so pretty with long hair and he would miss it. So it was never a serious "upset" at our house. It's not like he was holding me down or anything, lol, in fact when I did get it cut he paid for it...happily.
Now on the other hand my best friend, does whatever to her hair, whenever she wants. Her husband loves her with long hair but my friend never keeps it long. As soon as she gets it grown out to where she originally wanted it, she chops it off, sometimes as short as pixie. She just plain ol' doesn't care what her husband thinks about it. I guess to each their own. =)

I go through this to (between my dad and my husband...they both prefer longer hair). And my honest response is...it's my hair and I'm the one who has to get up and do it every morning, so I'm going to cut and style it the way I want!! And besides its hair...and yours seems to grow fast, so if YOU don't like you can grow it out. Do it to make yourself feel good!

So wait, you're supposed to keep your hair the same length as when you met him - for how long? forever?? You've been together a long time and hopefully you will stay together for a long time. It's unreasonable to suggest you should keep the same hair length that entire time. I say, go ahead and experiment with different cuts/styles.

It's your freaking hair! Do whatever you want ...not what HE wants. How would he like it if you told him he was supposed to wear his hair a certain a way just because you liked it better that way even though he hated it? To me that is controlling and I would do it just to despise my husband to prove to him that I make my own decisions when it comes to MY body. My husband would never care though. He does like it longer as it seems most men do but he has never gotten mad or suggested otherwise when I talked about doing something to my hair....he knows better-lol! Its just hair-it will grow! geez!

Sure, get his opinion but in the end it is your hair so you need to be happy. He will probably adjust.

My husband like long, blonde hair so that's how I stay. He'd freak if I cut mine short. I think I would feel bad if I did just because I know he likes it best long. Some men have a real aversion to short hair for some reason. Mine says that it just doesnt seem feminine to have short hair on a gal. Oh well. Do what you want tho. When my kids were little I did all sorts of crazy stuff to my hair, I think we mess with it out of boredom and frustration.
I did a pixie cut during a PMS momen, boy was I sorry after that... haha.

So typcial! ;) Men have a thing for long hair! If you're going to feel better and more sexy then you should do it. You're going to want to feel good so do something to accomplish that...your husband will prefer you to feel sexy than not, I can promise you that!

I say get that hair cut!! You are the one who has to live with it every day and take care of it. Do what you want!! And like you said, if you don't like it, it will grow back quickly. If you do like it, guess he'll have to get used to it!!

Cut it how YOU want it. It's YOUR hair and YOUR feelings about it. If he doesn't let you have control over his hair then don't let him have control of yours.

My hubby prefers my hair long and blonde, as it was when he met me. I, however, LOVE to play with my hair, so I've done all lengths and even tried red before. He still teases me that he "signed on for a blonde," but he knows that I just like to experiment with my hair, so he really just has to accept it. My hair is pretty much the only area of my life where I take risks, so I'm not about to cave on this one :)

In addition, as a busy mom of 2 under age 4, long hair is WAY too much maintenance for me. I would never be able to blow-dry long hair, but I can style my short hair in less than 10 minutes.

It's YOUR hair -wear it the way you want it and the way it looks best to you!

It's your hair, do what you want. You can just tell him it will grow back!

I've been there. I love my hair super short, but my hubby doesn't. So, I got one of those hairstyle magazines at the store and found a haircut that would be easy to care for even though my hair is still long. Actually, I love my haircut. It's easy to care for and looks good on me (age appropriate too). Talk to your stylist and colorist also. They can really do magic with hair nowadays. A friend of mine has this problem too. She got a pixie cut, but uses hair extensions when her and her hubby go out. So, he sees her with the long hair too.

Hope this helps,

M.

I know the dilemma you're going through. My DH likes my hair short, and I'm really enjoying it long right now!

When he came home from a campout two years ago and shaved his 2-week growth into a goatee, I was ecstatic. I think he looks gooooood with one, not to mention that he looks a little more "with it."

The next year, he came home from a campout and decided to have a full beard. Ummm....yeah, not so "with it." Not so stylish. But he really likes it. I have to say I like it better than clean-shaven, but I still prefer a goatee.

He asks me every few weeks if I like his beard. And I'm honest. I tell him it's okay, but I like a goatee better. i tell him that most guys don't look that good in a goatee, but he really does. He takes it as a compliment, but keeps his beard.

It's his face, although I look at it more than he does. So if he's going to do what he wants with his face, I will be doing what I want with my hair.

i think one of the best things about being a woman is that we have so many options for hair. Short and spiky, long and wavy, layered, curly, straight, we can do whatever we like and whatever is flattering. So play with it! And if your SO is upset, tell him that you're just playing around with it, because you're a woman, and you'll likely end up doing something he really likes sometime, too.

With an ex, he said he hated short hair and that if I cut my hair, we wasn't going to speak to me. So, I went to my appointment and I cut my hair above my shoulders short. He was really upset and I said: So, does this mean you're not going to speak to me? He said: No. The next day, he wanted something from me and he was wondering why I was ignoring him. HAHAHA.

I do whatever I want with my hair, I always have. My SO likes dark hair, I just got back with lighter hair and highlights....OH Well, I'm loving it!

my husband loves long blonde hair.
he married me with short red (colored) hair.
i like my hair this way. he wishes i would grow it. it's not happening.
you have to like your hair. yes, he should like it too but if you like different things then you choose what you like.
a woman who will never be a blonde nor grow her hair

I cut mine after my baby for the same reason, and hav ebeen sorry ever since. I already don't feel sexy becuase of the babyweight I put on, and not having the long hair doesn't help! The short makes me feel matronly and older- and right now, with getting over post partum, I need to feel sexy and desirable! But I feel how I do, because I don't like it- so I can't pull it off or sell it to anyone else. If you love the style you want to get, then you will be able to rock it with style! ;) GL

My husband prefers my hair longer..but I have OK hair its medicore. It grows to my shoulders. He is happy with it.

The whole thing about relationships is to keep the fire alive and one of the ways to do that is to keep ourselves attractive to one another. On the flip side though, you have to FEEL attractive too. If you think short hair will make you feel attractive then you need to make sure you talk a bit further with your man.

Ultimately, I have done the same as you many times over full knowing that my husband prefers my hair long, blond and straight - Ugh! He is extremely sweet not to say anything but I know his wishes based on his reactions to my hair in different ways. Thank God for fast growing hair and 21 years huh?

So here is the funny part, if my husband ever told me straight out that he didn't want me to cut it (he has NEVER told me what to do with my hair) then I wouldn't even consider it.

I say if your SO is not happy with you doing this to your hair, don't do it. It is kind of a slap in the face to him. Sort of like you don't care what he thinks of how you look.

Good luck with your decision!