Hello moms,
My son (3yrs) started his preschool this September....After 6-7 days of school his teacher starts complaining that"he is not listening"..Today when I went to drop him she was asking him "does he have problems focusing"?..
Thia is what happens at home...
Many a time he don`t listening to what we say like " come here,lets change our dress,time for bath,etc.....Sometimes I repeat if that don`t work I start counting (warning)123 by count 2 he listens 7 does what he is supposed to do..sometimes i show extra love & that works...sometimes I have to scream & that works(this is my last resort..
We have tried taking toys ways..he will cry for a minute or so but really never cares..Time-outs don`t work either..
Regarding FOCUSING - He can read books(with or without us) for hours..He plays with some toys for 1/2 an hour.. He is not much interested in coloring,painting play dough ect He will just sit for max 5 minutes.. He likes bicycling(1/2 hr) He watches limited TV(we don`t allow much)...
Moms ,please guide me what to do & how to do..
I really need your help...
Thanks in advance.
Lovey
L.,
My son is 4 and I have some of the same issues. I try to get down to his level and make sure he is looking at me when I tell him something. I will say his name until he looks at me and then talk to him. Having the eye contact helps a lot.
I was reading your request and i think i have your sons twin sister living in my house. My daughter is 3 years old and does not attend preschool yet, but i have been trying to do some things with her at home to help her get ready for preschool. Things like abc's, counting trying to color one thing in the lines instead of scribbling the whole page one color. Its no use. She just wont concentrate for more than a minute. When she is not listening we use the 1-2-3-counting also and by 2 it normally works, but im right with you when you say sometimes you have to scream, i hate doing it too, but sometimes they don't leave you many options. Around our house the phrase's most used right now is "focus on what your doing, and pay attention". I swear she can't focus on something unless its what she is interested in. Im sorry i could't be much help but i just wanted to let you know you are not alone. Lets hope its just a phase. Good luck.
Oh L.,
This sounds pretty age appropriate (his behavior). My son is 4 and also in preschool and he, too, has some listening issues, but its really up to the teacher as to how she can reach each child.
Encourage her to think outside of the box. What works for one child may not work for another. He's new to the school setting. They each have to learn how to make it work.
On a side note IF you felt that there was an attention or focusing issue, my son's teacher said that coloring is a wonderful way to increase their attention span because it helps them focus. Maybe having him pick out some coloring books if its not as much of an interest for him right now.
I don't think its much to worry about though. I would put it back on the teacher and ask her what method she is using to help him get (or stay) focused.
B.
Hi L.,
Same issue!! The complaint I get from my child's preschool is listening as well. When she told me about him not listening and focusing, I asked him what does he do. She said he goes to other areas in the classroom and plays there. I told her that is because he is curious and not focused. Maybe they shoul give him a second to go there, and then remind him to come back to the activity the are starting.Again the child is only 3. First I was really afraid, and thinking ADD, but looked more carefully and compared him to other 3 year olds and he is a typical three year old. Sometimes when I am around other kids, he is more calmer than other 3 yr olds. I repeat to him as well and remind him M. said this. I am very polite and soft voice because I dont want to be agressive and he becomes aggressive as well. Timeouts dont work, but the sitting quietly is what i do know. If he misbehaves or repeats an action that I said no to, I put him on his chair where he can see me and I can see him, and tell him to calm down and relax and talk to him about what he did. I picked some of this up from the show Nanny. If we remain calm, so will they, but once we get frustrated so do they.
