Not Exactly Sure What to Do About Toddler Sleeping in Our Bed

Updated on February 01, 2010
S.P. asks from Houston, TX
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I am not exactly sure what to do…My daughter is just barely over 2 years old and she had a very sever break in her arm about 3 weeks ago. She had two very extensive surgeries to fix it. While she had her sling she was confined to our bed to control movement. Now she has her cast and more freedom; my question is do I mo...ve her back to her bed now or wait until the cast comes off?

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D.C.

answers from College Station on

I would suggest following your motherly instincts on this one.

If the doctor has suggested that you continue to control her movement during the night, I'd put up with the bed sharing. Watch out that that cast doesn't hit you on the nose in the middle of the night! Maybe sleeping near you will help reduce how much she bruises herself with that cast.?! I don't know.

I'm glad she is healing and doing so well!

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A.A.

answers from Waco on

This is just one mom's opinion, but I would follow your own motherly instincts. If your daughter is ready, move her back to her own room. We co-slept with our daughter and when she was ready for her own bed, she transitioned just fine. Contrary to what some have said, it wasn't a hard transition... there were no tears or screaming or whatever. It sounds like your daughter went through a very traumatic ordeal. If she's ready to go back to her room, I don't think it will be a big deal. If she needs comfort from her parents, though, I'd be inclined to give it to her rather than leaving her to cry it out.

V.N.

answers from Huntington on

i believe that when she is ok enough to go back to her own bed i would do that. she is soo young that she is going to get too used to sleeping in the same bed then when you do go to put her back in her own bed she is going to feel very seperated from you. do it as soon she is able. our son was soo used to us laying with him when he was going to sleep and then coming to our bed EVERY morning, and it started to get very uncomfortable. i mean, you love your children and want to be next to them when they need you, but its something that needs to be taken care of as young as possible. in her case though, she may understand that you were doing it to be with her while she was hurt and transition back very easily, if not, just try letting her fall asleep with you and taking her to her bed, or laying in her bed with her to comfort her for a while or until she goes to sleep.

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L.L.

answers from College Station on

I would move her back to her own bed immediately. You could be creating a huge problem for the future if you delay. I hope the break heals well.

L.

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J.K.

answers from Austin on

She is three weeks out from the break so a good bit of healing has already taken place and she is well protected in the cast. If you don't want to potentially have to break the habit of her sleeping in your bed, go ahead and move her back. Nothing medically should prevent you from doing that.

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L.N.

answers from New York on

wait until the cast comes off.

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J.T.

answers from Victoria on

this is what i personally would do...take it or leave it but hope it helps. in the furture i would bring her bed into your room if she needs to be confined like that again with comforts of tv and little access to toys. that aside put her back in her room. try to go cold turkey like its the same old bed time doing what you did before. talk to her about its bed time. if she isnt having that then you lay by her bed on the floor. gradually move closer to the door and over a week or two time move back into your bed for sleep time. let her know that you will be there but are going to move back into your bed because mommies and daddys cant sleep on the floor your too big.

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L.S.

answers from Grand Rapids on

I would move her now before she get used to sleeping with you and won't sleep in her own room.

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S.F.

answers from Columbus on

I would move her back. My daughter came in our bed due to an illness, and she is better now, but is still there. I want her back in her bed. I need my sleeping space and she takes it all and then some.
If you don't get her back soon she may not go back so easy later on.

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S.P.

answers from Houston on

Move her back now!!!! The longer you wait the harder it will be to get her back in her own bed.

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G.G.

answers from Austin on

Well, you need to do what feels right to you. If you don't mind her in your bed, that's one thing. I do not sleep well when my kids are in bed with us so I personally would move her back. The longer you go with her in your bed, the harder the transition back to her own. The only thing that concerns me is that she might throw fits and you might have to pull a super nanny on her (where you put her back into bed 80x, if necessary). Will she throw a huge fit and possibly injure her arm?

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