I have a 15 year old son who used to love spending time with me, going to the mall, eating out and enjoying family gatherings. Now, he has given me Sundays only as mommie time. Whats up with this?
What's up with that?
He is 15. He's doing what every normal teenager does - asserting his independence and trying out his own identity as a budding young adult.
It has nothing to do with you, except perhaps that you need to transition from being 'mommie' to his 'mother'.
He's 15 and this is normal. Enjoy the time he is willing to set aside but you can sneakily add in more. Make it a point to be in the kitchen when he is getting ready for school so you can "talk" for a few minutes. But my best mommie time with my teenage boys has always been when its close to bed time. they would come in to sit on the edge of my bed to talk for a minute and say goodnight. my husband would be in the shower or still watching tv. they would stretch out next to me. the room would be dim and we had real conversations about stuff that is going on in their lives. seemed easier for them to talk to me when it was dark and not face to face . later on when I was battling breast cancer they came in every night and did this. I of course was under some heavey medication and would drift off to sleep. It became known as talking mom to sleep time. my boys are in college now and they still come in and talk when they are home. you will value that time a lot more than a dinner out
That's very typical of a 15 year old. I don't really think there is "anything up." Just a sign of the times, that he's a teenager.
Umm, he is 15 and he would rather hang with his friends and this is normal? As in, part of the process of him growing up and eventually separating from you?
I don't know but at least he is making time for you. Is he in to any sports that maybe you can play with him?
I have a friend who had one son and 4 girls. I was always easy for her to spend time with the girls and hang out but she had to go out of her way a little bit to give her son equal time.
They played tennis once in a while but mostly I think it was enough for him to know that his momma still loved him and supported him by always being there ready to listen and provide.
The way through a man heart is almost always through the stomach. Doesn't matter how old they are. lol
He's 15! Perfectly normal. Be sure sure you continue to have your family dinner time and continue to keep your lines of communication open. If he is active in sports or other activities, stay involved.
He's a teenager and is trying to become a man. I only have a 3.5 year old, but I'm pretty sure this is normal. He still LOVES YOU, he's just marching on towards adulthood and spending more time with his peers.
Completely normal..This means you have done a great job and he is feeling confident. This is what is supposed to happen.
You will get more time with him when he starts wanting to learn to drive, of course I hope you have good nerves.. Ha.. Make some of the driving time a chance to stop for a treat and then you 2 will have some alone time.. They have to log a lot of hours..
All teenagers do this at around that age. Do not worry. My children still went on vacations with me and to holidays with our family. It is a part of growing up.
If you have a good relationship with him do not worry. He will get older and be happy to be with you.
My children had me go roller blading in the park with them. They made up what they wanted me to participate in and I went along with it.
I have 16 & 13 year old sons and that sounds pretty normal.
We do homeschool, and now I'm more grateful than ever. We still get to spend alot of time together, and they also get plenty of time with their friends.
Just stay loving, and wait for those moments when he drop hints that he wants to talk. And when he does, mostly just listen.
Teen boys are so cool imho - it's really neat to watch them grow into men, especially for a mom like me who grew up only with sisters. It's a very precious and special time in their lives. Give him some space to do it. He still loves you very much I would bet, and he still listens whether you realize it or not.
Good luck.
You're son is growing up. It's a hard thing every parent does, but it's time to cut the chord.
He's growing up, mom! Hard to believe and let go, but it's completely normal. My mother-in-law gave me the best advice when my son starting 'pulling away'......she said....cut the apron strings off right at the apron not a little at a time. Give him his wings, but also remember he is still only 15. Good luck.
Let him grow up. At least he has carved out a space for you. Enjoy it!
Your son doesn't want to seem like a momma's boy. My son said the same thing when he was that age. We were very close and I took him to his first rock concert at 15. After that all his friends moms called me so I can take their sons with me. I was the only mom who could last through a whole concert! He is 22 years old now and we still go to concerts together!
