B.D.
Sounds like you are crazy busy! I feel the same way a lot of the time. Like, if I don't do it it won't get done. I have felt in the past (and still do) that I get stuck with the house work when I get home from work. I make dinner while the hubby plays his playstation or naps. Who said I wasn't tired?
But I have found that when this happens day after day I begin to get bitter and angry. I hold a little bit of a grudge towards my husband and it comes out in little, rude comments I make. And then we end up getting in an argument about something totally off that subject just because I am so bitter everything he does bothers me.
So when I feel this way I will down and talk to him. Don't list off the things you do and he doesn't (that will cause an argument). I use a lot of "I feel..." and try to explain to the best of my ability how I am feeling. And then I ask in a nice way for his help, "sweetie can you help me wash dishes?"
My husband needs a talkin' to every once in awhile, just to be reminded.
Sorry this is so long. I hope it helped. Good luck! And remember to take some time for yourself, you deserve it!!