No Heartbeat on an Early Ultrasound.

Hi,
I hope all is well and you got good news today-Monday. Remember that the testing is not perfect, and the results are not always easy to read.

Take care,
A.

Hi M.,

I am sorry you are dealing with this. But I do want you to know something similar happened to me. I went in around 8 weeks, and they said there was no heartbeat. They told me about the chance of a miscarriage which caught me so off-guard. They said if it's not that, then I wasn't as far along as I'd thought. I too had more blood work done. Fortunately my baby grew into a healthy boy and I delivered him 3 days earlier than the due date! I hope you have a similar experience.

Best Wishes!

I am so sorry you are having these issues. I have been there. I have had five miscarriages and trust me it is no easy thing to go through. When I was 10 weeks along with my son I had to go to the emergency room with pneumonia and they couldn't find a heartbeat anywhere, I was very very scared. They had me go see my Dr. the following day and thank God he found one. The spotting is what concerns me and the fact that they are waiting until Monday?!? Wow, my heart goes out to you. Good luck to you M., in the mean time, if that baby is safe do you dont want to hurt it by stressing yourself out all weekend, so continue to take care of yourself and relax as much as possible.

The same thing happened to me when we tried to get pregnant for our first child and I misscarried I was the same age as you are it was very heartbreaking and hard to get over. then 7 months later after we quit stressing and gave up we got preg. My daughter is now 7 we started trying agasin when she was five and the same thing happened again so heartbroken again we gave up for a while and then 9 months later we got preg and every thing was fine my son is 10 mnth old and there is another one on the way she will be here in three weeks. So my advice for you is not to give up or getdiscouraged I know it is really hard and not to but everything happens for a reason I have three beatiful children to prove it.
i hope all works out for you I have been where you are and I will remember you in my prayers.

Our oldest child was 10 months old when we decided we wanted to have another child and we'd better go ahead and start trying, because I was 42 and the odds were against it. Wonder of wonders, I got pregnant the very first month. I was so freaked out at first and did NOT want to be pregnant again so soon--and then w/in 48 hours I had decided I really did want that baby...and then I started spotting. I miscarried at 8 weeks, and I thought that was it. The end. Who gets pregnant twice after the age of 42? Me, that's who. Two years later I got pregnant again--and then the same thing: no heartbeat, plus spotting. I was convinced this horrible thing was happening again; went in for an ultrasound to confirm that the fetus was dead, I just KNEW it was dead, and...what do you know! There was a heartbeat. That little girl, our youngest, starts second grade tomorrow. The moral: you just never know.

I am hoping for the best for you, but remember this: you will be fine, no matter what. So many of us have been there. You are surrounded by an invisible web of love and support.

Hi M.,
This happened to me with my last of six pregnancies and my daughter is now 5 years old and very healthy!I was 6 weeks pregnant and the ultrsound did not show a heartbeat. My doc said I may be off target with date (never was, certain of all 6 dates) or that I was definately having a miscarriage, he really stressed the point that he was almost certain I was losing the baby and told me what to expect. Have faith that God's will be done, He is the strenghth that carries us through all situations. I am not trying to preach but know that with Him we can make it through anything. I will be praying for u and your baby and am here if you just need to talk. Remember, chin up and keep the faith.

Sister In Jesus Christ,
E.

Hello M.,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your baby. I have personally been down this road - I had two consecutive miscarriages before finally being blessed with a healthy pregnancy resulting in the birth of my son. If, God forbid, it turns out that you have another miscarriage, you'll want to begin working with a high-risk specialist and a reproductive endocrinologist to help you successfully carry a baby to term. If you happen to live in either Maryland or NYC then I can recommend some wonderful doctors. I also suggest reading the book "Preventing Miscarriage: The Good News" by Dr. Jonathan Scher. You are welcome to contact me directly. My heart goes out to you.

Hi M., I know what you are going through. I was six weeks pregnant when I started spotting over the weekend. I had to wait until Monday to see my doctor. My doctor did a vaginal ultrasound and could not find the embryo. Then she sent me to another testing center to double check, but still no embryo. I was finally sent to the emergency room where the blood work confirmed I was having a miscarriage because my Beta count was dropping. During that time span it felt like eternity waiting for an answer. And I know its hard not to worry or stress out about, but doing that won't help either. If you have family close by, maybe you should be surrounded by them to help comfort you. I know that's what got me through it. I'll keep you in my prayers this weekend.

Dear M.,

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a similar experience, but now have a beautiful, healthy 18 month old daughter. If you are miscarrying, you should ask to be referred to a specialist, specifically a reproductive endocrinologist, who can figure out why you keep miscarrying. There are several reasons for miscarriage which can be fixed, and fixed quite easily, so it is worth getting checked out.

After our second miscarriage, we went to Dr. Katz at the GBMC Fertility Center, and got our miscarriage problem solved right away. We now have a beautiful, very healthy 18 month old daughter. GBMC Fertility is now part of Shady Grove Fertility, but is still located at GBMC.

Some ob-gyn's wait until a person has had 3 miscarriages before referring them to a specialist, but you can be referred after 2 miscarriages. I HIGHLY recommend a person go after 2 -- no reason to wait for 3. Why keep going through that pain.

Best of luck, and stay positive. I know how devastated you are, please stay positive. I got so depressed after our second miscarriage, so I know how you feel.

Feel free to send me a private message if you need someone to talk to.

Hi M.,
Yes I've been there and I'm sorry to hear that you are going through something similar. Mine was during my second pregnancy - an unexpected one. Surprise! Immediately I started planning things, picking names, etc. I was surprised but excited. My first sonogram at 8 weeks showed that I was only 7 weeks along. that would have put things at the week that I was on vacation without the hubby....ummm. We did a series of additional sonograms every week to see the progress and each time the growth count was 1 day shy of where it should have been. So my dr. was very straight forward about what was probably going to be the outcome, and he was right. Only they couldn't decide on when it had occurred as my body was still behaving like it was pregnant. My friend had this happen to her twice. My doctor told me that there wasn't any one particular thing that I did or could have done different. I got pregnant again a few months later and started having the same issues. They watched me like a hawk I was totally freaked. Luckily I was able to carry the pregnancy through and now have a little girl.
So my advice to you...take one day at a time.
Hugs.
M.

Hi M.. That specifically has not happened to me. I found out I'd lost my child in a different way (it was how I found out I was pregnant).

I hope and pray that you are NOT losing this child! But whether or not you are: I pray that the peace of God will surround you at this time and that He will grant you a child to raise in the immediate present/future.

I offer you a hug.

I wish I could offer more...

...from a sister military wife...

Unfortunately, you are where it really could go eitherway. If it does go the wrong way- be thankful it was this early and not further along. I had this happen 3 times in tthe past. If it is meant to be it will happen. The doctors always told me it was hopeful that conception actually happened. Keep a positive attutude thru the whole thing- its the key to surviving. Many prayers and white light coming your way for a positve outcome.

M.,

I feel your pain. I have had two early miscarriages and one at 12 weeks. It does seem like a long time to wait and those few days can seem like an eternity. The emotional roller coaster is normal so don't be too hard on yourself. I am sure they told you to take it easy and all that kind of stuff. If you have had a miscarriage before, you may want to ask about having your progesterone checked. Mine was too low. Through a caring friend, I was able to find the right info to figure out the problem and we treated it naturally. God blessed us with two additional children after that. My friend had a similar experience. Please know that I am praying for you and you are free to contact me persnally.

S.

M.:

I am sooooo sorry to hear this. I know what you are going through - the emotional roller coaster is a ride that I don't want to get on again.

Please stay calm. Take lots of deep breaths and do not think about anything negative. Drink some hot tea, just stay relazed. I know this is easier said than done, but RELAX - put your feet up and just don't do anything this weekend. Go to the Dr on Monday with a positive attitude.

I will be honest with you - I've lost three babies. One at 12 weeks, one at 20 weeks (that SUCKED HUGE) and again at 12 weeks - the first term loses were hard but the beginning of the third trimester is one I wouldn't wish on anyone.

This is not meant to sound trite, so please don't take it that way - things happen for a reason. We don't always like the reason nor do we always get the answer.

Please have your doctors run geneic blood work on you and your husband - we had to do this - especially if this is yoru second pregnancy. Simply put - the geneic markers will tell you if there's a problem with the way you and your husband's DNA mix.

Please tell your husband is service to our country is very much appreciated.

I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. I pray it will all work out.

God Bless.

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. Don't freak out just yet. I wasn't able to hear my daughter's heartbeat until I was about twelve weeks along. I had several people tell me that I was having a miscarriage because I had cramps and spotting. They were wrong! My mom told me to relax or the stress could cause one. The stress and worrying caused the cramps and spotting. Also, the reason we couldn't hear a heartbeat is due to the way my daughter was laying. This happened a few weeks after we first heard the heartbeat as well. Please remember, as long as we do everything we can, there is still lots more we have to put in God's hands and pray it all works out. Worrying doesn't help. I know... easier said than done. Try to preoccupy your time with positive things not baby related. Best of luck.

Hi M., whichever way this goes for you, I just want to send my thoughts. Unfortunately all you can do is wait.I know the waiting is torture. The doctors will take your blood work and then they will look at your pregnancy numbers. The "numbers" should go up if your pregnancy is healthy. If they are going down and they still cannot find a heartbeat, unfortunately it means you are having a miscarriage. Don't give up hope, but at the same time prepare yourself incase it is bad news. I know how incredibly hard this is. I had this happen to me twice and my husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for two years when the first miscarriage happened. Now I have a beautiful 3 year old girl and an adorable 18 month old boy, my perfect little family!! It will happen for you too! Hang in there!
E., Chantilly

M.,
I went through a misscarriage myself before having my son. I know how you feel since I waited several weeks to find out difinitively that my fetus was not developing.Unfortunately if you're having a miscarriage there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. During my second successful pregnancy I spotted a little until the end of my first trimester, so what you're experiencing may ont necessarily be the worst. I do hope everything works out for you and your husband.

Hi,
Be strong!!! When I was pregnant the first time, my blood and urine tested positive, but there was no heart beat. If that's the case, it just wasn't meant to be!!!! get a DNC and for sure, your body will want to get it wright the next time , and you'll get pregnant again!!!!!!( I chose to give birth to it at home and that's not a great idea!) That's what happened to me, and some other moms I've talked to ended up w/ twins!!!!!!! Now, I don't wish that to you, but relax, everything is going to be fine......
Best of everything to you,
A.

I had a miscarriage early this year and didn't even make it to the 8 week appointment. I had spotting (but no cramping) for 3 weeks. Finally they did blood work on me (twice) to see if the hcg lrevels were rising like they were supposed to. They were not - I had to have a D&C.

The doctor wasn't really alarmed with the light spotting because it can be very normal early in pregnancy. And you very well could be not as far along as expected. I ovulate around cycle day 21 (a week later than average women) so I cannot go by "the first day of my last period" rule.

I remembered how agonizing it was when I miscarried & I do not blame you for not wanting to go through it again. The "waiting game" is heinous too. Have your doctor check your hcg levels a couple days apart & that will give you your answer.

M.,
I feel your pain. I have gone through the same thing. On a friday had an ultra sound saw a heartbeat.. went back the next monday or so because my numbers were low... and same thing did not see a heart beat.. had the spotting etc. I just kept telling myself if it was meant to be it would be. Would rather have it happen then, then t ogo through a pregnancy and have problems keep showing up in th efetus. I had to go back several days to keep gettin gblood taken and felt the same way.. why drag this on... unfortunately, my numbers went low and it passed... Keep strong...I was able to conceive again.. I have a healthy 2 year old now...

M.,
My heart goes out to you.....I know how agonizing it is to wait. The same thing happend to me with my first child. No heartbeat w/ ultrasound, I had spotting and cramping as well. But, Praise the Lord, I went back in for another ultrasound..there was that heartbeat....it was just too early. I ovulated late in the cycle...that's all. I will say that I continued to have spotting and cramping my whole pregnancy and ended up having to decrease my activity level and even some bed rest...but it was worth it to have my son:) I know it's really hard not to think about it constantly, but try to think positive (and pray for peace)unless you get news that tells you otherwise. The waiting is the hardest part.....in my case it turned out well...I am hoping and praying the same for you.
Blessings,
L.
PS..please update us when your tests come back, I wish you the best.

I hate to say it, but it sounds like a miscarriage to me. I've been throught the same thing twice. Once at 11 weeks, and once at 7. The first time, I wasn't cramping, but was spotting. They did an ultra sound and same thing, sac with not heart beat. Same as you I had an appointment the following Monday. By Sunday it came out..... The second time, I had cramping but no bleading. I went into the ER and again got an ultrasound, and again a sac but no heart beat. The next day, I started bleeding, and within 2 hours it had come out. The fact that you are cramping, bleeding, and there is no heart beat, if I were you, I would brace myself for a miscarriage. I'm sorry you are going through this as well. It is one of the hardest things ever. The only thing I can say is that for me at least, the second one was easier to deal with.

M.,
First I want to say my heart goes out to you. I have been through a miscarriage where there was no heart beat during the early stages of pregnancy and beleive that it is more common than we would like to think. WIth having two miscarriages back to back, it starts to make being a Mom seem difficult and very emotional. Although, the doctor's could also be making a mistake and you should know more very soon. I now have a beautiful six year old son. So, I want to encourage you and let yourself be emotional, you have every right to and seek out friends and family that understanding and supportive to bothyou and your husband. That is very important. Take care of yourself and try to relax. I wish you the best!

Hello. I'm a mother of four children (more but we'll get to that). Yes in answer to your question it has happened. It happened to me twice (8 weeks too both of them) and my sister once (at 4 months). I also lost my first child at 38 weeks but I now have three (10, 8 and 4) beautiful children who occupy me all the time.

Miscarriages are natural and very common. I don't know why doctors don't tell this to women! I think it's due to the emotional roller coaster ride we go through. Once I was fully informed I did not forlorn my loss. Why? Because I knew that in my heart these little beings were not strong enough for this world.

As for the length of time for the doctor to check - dump the doctor if you don't feel you are getting the right attention. Remember you are paying the doctor so you are his/her client not the other way around. If you can't dump the doctor, be nice, firm and demanding that and ask for them to speed it up. As for waiting, it depends on the type of bloodwork they are doing but they can put a rush on this - I know, my mother-in-law and aunt are nurses.

My best advice, calm down, take a deep breath and relax. We women work ourselves into such a frenzy wanting to have a baby but when the time is right (and I don't mean your time I mean when you least expect it) it may happen. It's the weekend now so you'll just have to wait until Monday. How you decide on your approach to this miscarriage or previous or future is going to determine whether you can handle what it means.

We got pregnant with our last child which was a miracle - there were many complications and honestly I didn't think he would survive but I didn't get myself emotional about it as each month moved on - I simply let it be and accept what was to come or not come.

This is the EXACT sittuation that i am going through. I am 8 weeks and they did the trans- vaginal ultra sound and nothing. They want me to have another ultra sound in 1 weeks time. I have no cramping or bleeding and i still feel pregnant. I am very confused and just want an answer, I am sorry this is happening to you, but atleast you are not alone.
J.- NY

Hi M.,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I cried when I read your post because it reminded me of my first miscarriage. I understand how painful this can be - the waiting, not knowing. But, as you can see from the other posts, not everyone miscarries in your situation. So, try to hang on and be strong. Soon you will know for sure. In the meantime, I'm sending thoughts and prayers for comfort and hope and peace to you. The best things in life are really worth the wait. And, I say that because I am 40 weeks pregnant today with my first child (after losing 4 pregnancies) and I'm almost 42 and have had lots of infertility issues. Don't give up your hopes and dreams for this one yet. It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings. :)

I had the same exact issue with my second pregnancy. That said, I was an emotional mess at the time I encountered bleeding/spotting with my second pregnancy. I was told it might be a blighted ovum, but my OB/Gyn said we'd have to wait for another week or so to see what would happen. After a week of tears and emotions....there was a little developed embryo, and now my daughter is two. That said, it might be too early to hear/see a heartbeat. By ten weeks you'll know for sure. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, but I had had no bleeding/spotting or indication that I was losing the pregnancy. At ten weeks there was no heartbeat. I was devastated. I did learn with the bleeding and spotting of the second pregnancy that I bled/spotted because my uterus needed to sluff off what it didn't need with no cramping. Our bodies are amazing machines. If it's any relief for right now, if you have no cramping, live in the moment and think positively.

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I truly hope that you just aren't that far along. Unfortunately, miscarriages are almost as common as child birth. I, also have had 1 and was extremely fearful when I saw spotting while pregnant with my son at 6 weeks. I can't explain the lack of a heartbeat, but please be calm. Don't stress out and try to relax. It could just be too early.

I have been where you are.
It's not an easy place to be. Just try to relax and remember that it is what it is and unfortunately, at this point, there is really nothing anyone can do but wait and see.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
xo
LBC

I had the same thing happen w/my second son! I started spotting on my oldest son's birthday! I spotted much more w/Ethan than Garen. I, too had the no heartbeat. I had to wait 1.5 weeks! It was torture! I kept praying and just tried to remember that it was early. I also had blood tests because my blood count wasn't rising as fast as normal, but everything was ok! I sure hope that is the case for you! I'll keep you in my prayers!

I didn't have the issue with the heartbeat, but I did have serious cramping and bleeding with Dylan early on; everything turned out fine in the end. I know how scared you are. Hang in there, and I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Hi M.,

Hang in there! Luckily, you'll know more today. I had the same thing happen to me (without the cramps and spotting) and I remember being totally devestated when we saw that there wasn't a heartbeat.

It turned out that it was simply too early! That's all! My baby was perfectly fine. I'll hope the same for you today. Best of luck.