My daughter, nearly 4, has been potty trained for nearly 2 years, and at nite for over a year. She was able to wake herself up at nite and use her little potty on her own and get back to bed, without any help from us. We changed our bedrooms about 2 months ago, and ever since she has been having accidents nearly every night. We started a star chart and are now getting her up twice a nite to pee, but she is no where near as independent with this issue as she used to be. It is like we are starting all over again. Any ideas??? I thought maybe it was the move to a new bedroom, but she was able to pee on her own when we were on holiday last December/January, and when we came back. But soon after the move to the new room. Have other parents had this experience - two steps forward and one step back???
This is absolutely acceptable;especially since she trained at such a young age. Her room is her space and since it has been thru such a change,she must re-adapt. When you were on holiday, she knew it was not "her" space. Just be patient.
I am right there with you right now. My son, who has just turned 5, is peeing in his jammies and bed every single night. I am going nuts with it. Today, I am going out and getting him some Pull-ups until we can get this back under control. In the meantime, I am taking him in for his annual check-up and will discuss it with the doctor.
Good luck and welcome to the States!
Please don't withold fluids after 7pm. While it makes a lot of sense, it can be cruel. My mother moved around a lot as a child and had bedwetting issues (which I believe were based on emotional issues until she was around 6 years old). Althought she didn't wet the bed all the time, she wasn't allowed to drink anything after 7pm either. And you know what, she was thirsty. She has told me horrible stories of how thirsty she would be at night. Fortunately, she was old enough to sneak water during the middle of the night (after everyone else went to sleep), but still . . .
Just accept that your daughter has regressed a little (moving across the world is a bit traumatic) and let her rebuild her independence here. Also, try not to make a big deal of it with her. It happens sometimes, but I promise you this:
SHE WILL NOT BE DOING THIS WHEN SHE'S 15 YEARS OLD. THIS ISSUE WILL CORRECT ITSELF!
TLR
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Good luck. D.
I agree with the others that this is most likely an adjustment issue, but I would take her to the pediatrician if you haven't already done so. Little girls are prone to urinary tract infections and that can cause nighttime regression wetting. My daughter has recently been going through this, too (without the move). The doctor can give her a thorough look and make sure that there are not physical causes for the bed wetting.
Good luck & welcome to the US.
yes, many times it's back and forth. Not always do the children feel the need for achievement, even with rewards; sometimes, it's just about comfort and joy. Moving from overseas is a substantial cultural shock for any person. Air, food, language, movies, music, speed, smell, priorities, everything is different. What we filter through an intellectual perception is not clear for the little ones. Too many things going on at the same time. Best to slow down now and allow yourselves to find comfort in each other. My older daughter (8 years) was also 4 when we moved to the States. It's all you and your understanding of the new dynamics and emotions right now. Nothing is the same anymore, and just as much as you are settling in your mind, you could say you are stepping back from "normal" as well, going a few steps back. Just like your daughter. So everyday life should be a new adventure to see what exactly is going on in this new life (besides being a big girl..). Drawing, dancing, expressing can help now to understand her feelings and thoughts, fears and insecurities. It's okay to regress and be sad or confused. The little ones know that there is always more to learn than meets the eye. It'll all work out with love and patience knowing that all is well. Good luck!!! A.
She is probably mentally confussed since you have changed her normal pattern what she use to do..Since my choildren are in their 20's it's hard to say except her normal pattern has been disrupted. Just like when you have something planned and something changes last minute, in her mind this is what happened. you might have to repeat to her the steps bath and forth to the bathroom so she will remember later...I know about moving from overseas did it 3 times, from Italy, Germany and the Netherlands all when our children were younger...
Does she seem to be jsut having this issue at night or going more frequently during the day as well? Maybe she has a UTI or bladder infection. Does she complain that it burns/stings when she goes or that she feels like she needs to go all the time and just a little bit comes out? Just a thought.
Good luck,
M. C.
I am not sure if you just changed bedrooms in your current place or moved. The way you have it written is that you just changed bedrooms and if this is the case then I would try and switch the rooms back and see how she does with that. If moving from your old location to another is the change then maybe you should have a talk with her and see if she is ok with it. My husband and I moved from California to Virgina when my daughter was four she did not go back to peeing to bed because of it. We did sit down with her though and explain to her that we would be moving and that she was going to have to leave her friends behind and such, but she would make new friends at our new place. We include our daughter in everything. I think that sometimes just sitting down with the child and talking to them helps out alot. It allows you to understand what the child is going and through and it may help them out in the long run knowing that they can talk to you. Ok, well that is all I have. Hope everything works out in the end.
don't give her any thing to drink after 7:00p.m.
