Potty Training/bed Wetting

Make it as uncomfortable for her as possible. It sounds mean maybe but tough love works with this situation. My son had a similar problem until I didn't give him anything to drink after 7pm. I was waking him up before I'd go to sleep and maybe one more time before the morning. He hated that the most. I also told him the harsh reality of it. Sleepovers at friends houses will be real difficult and kids can be very cruel.

In our house we have a simple rule of "if you mess it you clean it" This goes along with my sons bed. he was completly potty trained at 3, but I always put him in pullups because I thought he needed them until I realized as you do that he was wet before he went to bed. I told him that once the pack of pull ups we had was gone that Walmart (where we always bought them) was no longer selling them. The first night he wet his bed and when he woke in the morning I made him change himself, change his sheets, and put his stuff in the washer. I know this sounds a little too much for a 4 year old but it worked and he has not had an accident at night since. I guess he didnt like chores so much. I wish you luch
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S.,
My son wasn't fully potty trained until he was 4 and a few months. All my friends said that I needed to get on him and get him potty trained. But like kids he didn't want to and that was it. I talked to my son's doctor who said the worst thing I could do is push him into something that he wasn't ready for because it would take longer. Bed wetting that was hard, I would make sure there was nothing to drink one hour before bed. I would also wake him up once a night around the same time as his accident to bring him to the bathroom. Its like building a schedule for your child to follow. Hope this helps...

I have one 5 year old who wont have an assident in school but most of my problem is not so much the peeing thing i mean he still wet his bed at night but he wont stop pooing him self if you get any info let me know maybe it will help me to 8 ) ~K. Ps the doctor says that it the child that want to potty train and that when there ready they will dont know how much that really true

Hi S.,
Don't fret it will get better. My son had accidents at night for a little while when he was about 3 and 4. What I would do is make him go to the bathroom before he even watched a show. He didn't have a TV in his room so that helped a lot. Then at night I would let him have a drink with dinner, then nothing else. I know that sounds harsh. It was harder for me because I don't want my kids to be hungry or thirsty. But stopping the drinks after dinner did the trick forme for nights. It took a couple of days and then it went smooth.
As for during the day, I never had that problem but definatly make her go to the bathroom before and after she eats, before she watches a show and then after. And if she doesn't want to go then take TV away from her,or something she really likes.
You can also try to hide the pull ups and tell her you don't have the money to buy them anymore so she has to not pee her bed. I feel for you, it is very frustrating. But I found using these tactics it worked. Sometimes kids are lazy and just don't feel like moving, believe me I know. I really hope this helps you in some way. Good luck to you! :)

I had somewhat the same problem with my son. He's 5 1/2 now and what I did when he was younger and wetting the bed was...wake him every 2hrs. and had him go, I usually carried him to and from the bathroom and sat him on the toliet. I usually had to sit in front of him, but it worked. Now, if he doesn't want to take the time to go and has an accident, I take away five min. from his bedtime movie. Another thing that I barely got him to do was stop/pause the movie so that he would go potty, this way here he didn't miss his favorite parts. I also make a big deal out of him waking up dry everyday and do a little song and dance which he still finds amusing! It's been 2mos. since his last "accident," he has worked very hard at this problem of his and I award him for it. If he has an accident there are consequences. Don't give up and hang in there, be firm and consistant!!!

I am not yet to the potty training stage yet, but I know as a child I had a bed wetting problem until I was about 7. It is very normal to go through this, but it does sound like she is holding on to pull-ups. I think that pull ups are an excuse to not go to the bathroom, when children wet themselves it is uncomfortable and teaches them to make it to the bathroom. Maybe you could take her to the store and have her pick out a couple of packs of underwear with her favorite characters and soap (like the kandoo) to help motivate her to use the toilet. They also make mattress pads that go around the mattress (doesn't cover the whole mattress but where your bottom would be) that can assorb quite a bit of fluids to save you clean up time. I wish you luck, I know that I will be in for a lot when it is time to potty train my son.

hi S.. my son is 6 and a half. i had the same problem. my son used to have accidents all the time while playing, watching tv, and sleeping. i used to tell him that if he couldn't pause the movie to go to the bathroom, then i would have to cut movie time shorter. for a few weeks i only permitted him to watch half the movie until he went potty. eventually i let the movie go longer and longer until he got to watch the whole thing. every night i reminded him that if decided that the movie was more important than being a "big boy", the movie would be cut shorter again. it worked. as for the wetting the bed, my son just stopped doing it this summer. i spoke to his doctor about it and he said not to really worry about it. he said that a lot of children can't control their bladder while sleeping until the age of seven. he said not to worry about it until the seventh birthday, but usually, once they hit seven it just stops. also, since i was tired of changing his bed everyday, i made him do it. before he went to school, i had him take off the sheet, and then i had him put on a clean one (i had to help him some, but he got the idea). another thought might be that maybe your daughter is a bit jealous of the new baby. maybe she feels that wetting herself is the only way to get to pay attention to her. try giving her extra praise when she does go to the potty. keep me posted on the progress. good luck.

S.

My advice. Sounds like she is manipulating you a bit. Get rid of the pull ups. Limit fluids after 6 p.m. Maybe she shouldn't watch tv in bed. And when I was getting my daughter trained at night I used to wake her up and take her before I went to bed around 9 or 10 at night. And sleeping on towels helps!

Hi S., Your little girl seems well aware of what she is doing when she wets herself because she doesn't feel like pausing a movie. You say she even says that five year olds do not use the potty all the time. I say wow !! Imagine what she will turn out like as a teenager if she is already saying such a thing !! You need to discipline her. Tell her if she wets her pants, she will be sent to her room, and / or that she will not be able watch movies for so long, etc. Please let me know how things turn out. ~M.~

Goodmorning S.,
I am sorry you have to go through this, I know it must be frustrating at her age. I guess what my suggestion would be is to stop using hte pull ups all together. It sounds like she is using them as an excuse to be lazy (for lack of a better word). If she continues to pee her pants without the pullups on she'll finally learn what it feels like to be wet, and she won't like it. She'll start to pay more attention, at least when she's still awake. You could also start making her responsible for cleaning up after herself, or at least helping you do it, such as the laundry and washing her bed down. Maybe if she see's how much work is involved and she's eventually going to have to take care of it on her own she'll think twice about it.??????? GOOD luck hon, keep us posted on how things turn out.

i had a very difficult time with my son with nighttime bed wetting. he was potty trained at 2 1/2 years but he was probably about 6 by the time we never saw him wet at night. it may be her bladder hasnt caught up to her body growth or she is a very deep sleeper (which mine was). i would ditch the pullups- it sounds like she may be regressing (did you say you had a new baby?) and she is probably being lazy as they sometimes are (why go all the way to the toilet when i can just go in my pants??). perhaps a punishment/reward type system might work. i dont know. i think my sons issue was some of the above and stress. just a suggestion.
C.

I had a similar situation with my son. I tried everything. I put a plastic sheet like cover over his mattress so I did not have to deal with the whole mattress stain issue. I also stopped giving him any liquids after 6:00pm, this proved to work out very nicely. Is this your daughters first year of school? She might be having these accidents more frequently because her routine has changed. There are several factors that could possibly contribute to her bed wetting. The only assurance I can offer is that you are not alone. There is a reason why they make pullups up to 80lbs...because kids need them. If you speak to your daughters pediatrician, I am sure they can also provide some things you could do to possibly help your situation. Please try the no liquids after 6:00pm and see if she makes any progress. You can also create a chart for her with the days of the week. Whenever she has a successful night, give her a star and after she gets 5 stars in a row, she can get a prize...IT DOES WORK...TRUST ME. Good Luck and I look forward to hearing about her progress.

Hello,my adive to u is stop using pull up all together,your daughter is smart and she knows that she can wet them without getting wet. Go to walmart buy some dissposable bed chucks let her wear her big girl underwear.when she is sitting on the furniture put a chuck undrer her. while she is in bed for a nap or especially at bed time put a chuck on her bed make sure she goes pee before she goes to bed. make sure no drinks 2 hours before bed. that should help make sure you keep the bathroom light on and when she stay dry over night make sure you make a big deal about it tell her what a big girl she is and give her a goal. Like if you don't wet the bed for 1 week we will go to the store and you and pick out new special big girl underwear.

I have an entirely different approach to this. My son 2 goes on the potty when he chooses and is in pull ups, I encourage it but do not push. my son who is 6 I really encouraged and maybe even gently pushed and the kid still wets his pant and bed at times. the day time wetting is improving thank goodness but the night time issue still is there. I was getting frustrated with doing the laundry each day. Infact he had started to lash out about a year ago and would pee on walls, floors, toys you name it I was furious! I sat down with him and talked about how gross that was and that its a toxin that's why your body gets rid of it. I went into detail about toxins and poisons and then asked him if he would like to sleep with dog poo. he of course said no and when I asked why not he said it was gross. so I explained that the things were very similar and threw out every toy he loved that had been peed on. at this point he sleeps in big boy underpants at bed, I have stopped letting him have water at night,and being six he is already asking about sleep overs I know I don't see grown men in diapers (unless medically necessary) so I think that as time progresses its getting more and more important to him to not wet the bed and get out of those underpants as at this point is less and less socially acceptable. that's my take on it, this no longer gives him the control of using it to frustrate or battle with mom. He sleeps in the underpants every night without question and is asking more and more how to get out of them. I don't have to get upset it just is what it is. He has wanted to get out of them a few times and the deal is if he does not have one wet one out of the pack he can but the minute he wets that bed, I buy more and he's back in them. At first he was happy about them because he saw his baby brother in diapers, now he is realizing that they are not that great and would rather not have them.