Night Tantrums, Candy Obsession, Lots of Changes

Updated on April 07, 2011
N.A. asks from Minneapolis, MN
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Recently (with the days being longer and the sun staying out) my son's (he is 3 yrs old) schedule has gotten really off. He used to be in bed by around 9pm. Now it's more like 10:30 or 11pm. I am trying tokeep him on the schedule but it's been difficult he keeps telling me the sun is still out it's not bedtime. I know it will just get worse later into the summer.
Also, I have been more restrictive on his snacking lately because he will snack all day and never eat the meals I make.
I know he is over tried, the other night he asked for crackers before bed, he had just had a snack 20 minutes before and I felt that he was just trying to extend bedtime so I said "No". He pouted a bit, but went to sleep (we are also trying to wean from nursing to sleep), within a couple of hours he awoke crying (like a tantrum) kicking off the covers failing his arms around saying "no mama, no mama" over and over again. I tried to comfort him , but it took about 15 minutes for him to really calm down, he did this again 2 more times that night. We had some issues with night terror type stuff when he was almost 2 as well. I asked him if he remembered doing the crying and hitting in the morning and he said yes, demonstrated the kicking and hitting, when I asked why he did it he said "Because you wouldn't let me have any goldfish crackers" - so he totally remembers doing it, so I don't think it's night terrors.
Also a few days ago, my mother wouldn't let him have a 4th piece of candy and cried and carried on for 20 minutes or so and wouldn't give up the idea of candy. Like he was OCD or something? Should I be concerned about the tantrums?? The obsession with candy, the night awakens? He seems fine otherwise, bright, doing good at preschool etc.
He could just be cranky from the change in schedule, the change in his snacking habit, and mean trying to wean all at once (but we are not weaning cold turkey)...Any thoughts??

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Thanks for the response so far! I appreciate it. Just to clarify I am not trying to starve him, I usually let him snack it's just that most of the time he wants candy or cookies and when I offer something else he has a tantrum. I have cleaned the cupboards out and we don't have that in the house anymore! So, if he is really hungry he should eat the snacks I offer right??
I hope he sleeps better after he is fully weaned and I know I have to enforce and earlier bed time. I am a single mom get home from work/school at 6:30 make dinner, he wants to play outside, things have just gotten out of hand! It's hard to get everything done by 8pm. But I will try!! I know others do it (:

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M.O.

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This sounds like 100% age-appropriate behavior. I think there's a consensus out there that the so-called terrible twos begin at age 2.5 and end at age 3.5. With my son, the period between 3 and 3.5. was definitely the most challenging. It also sounds like your son could be on a growth spurt. Mine definitely gets moody and food-obsessed during that time. My only advice is about as far from rocket science as you can get: no candy. If he needs snacks, give him snacks, but cheese and crackers. Finally, I nursed my own son until he self-weaned at about 3.75. His sleep issues have gotten much, much better since then. So, chances are things'll get better for you guys -- just hang in there!

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S.B.

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It sounds like typical three year old behavior to me. They do obsess, sometimes over seemingly odd things. Your son is testing boundaries. He is just hoping you will give in. I have seen it with both of my children. Just stay consistent. With my son we didn't see too much of the terrible two behavior everyone talks about. He made up for it though when he hit three. I wasn't sure if we were going to make it out of the horrible three's intact. GL! Hang in there.

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L.A.

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my mother in law tells me she would give my hubby and her other children "vulture food" immediately after pre-school. It would be a handful of nuts, some fruit, a snack sized chocolate, or any such thing. It would make them happier and more agreeable. Kids can get really tired from all the learning and self control involved in pre-school. They can be cranky b/c they are hungry but don't even know to put two and two together. Try the after school snack.

Good luck

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S.H.

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Night Mares.
This is different from Night Terrors.
Kids from this age, have Nightmares.

Overtired, yes he is.

Does he nap?
He may need it.
My son is 4 and still naps everyday, in the afternoons.
He needs it. Otherwise he turns into an overtired Troll. But he still goes to bed at a normal time, by 8:00 or 8:30.

He is not OCD.
3 year olds, do get like this.
It is a hard age.

I think, feed him healthier.
And if he is going through a growth-spurt... kids do eat frequently and do get hungry. Both my kids are like that at growth-spurts. I let them eat. I don't mind, because I don't feed them junk.

If a child, gets Hypoglycemic, their blood sugar drops. It can also cause moodiness and tantrums.
So, 'snacks' are necessary. Because it keeps the blood sugar levels, even. But instead of giving him sugar, give him other stuff.

Just ride out the sugar fixation. Explain that it is only a treat. Not an everyday thing. Do a different routine. Tell him, sugar is bad.
Or give him healthy 'sweets' like Smoothies or fruit etc.

A kid, if hungry, needs to eat or snack.

Also, yes, sleep deprivation causes problems, and at the end of the school day, a kid is just TIRED. They need to deflate. My kids are like that. They come home, I give them a snack or even another meal. They are always HUNGRY after school AND tired. That combination, makes for an OVER-tired and fussy child... because they were all day at school 'behaving' and doing things on task. So when they come home, after a long hard day at 'work'... they need to deflate. And have downtime. AND they NEED to eat.

Your child may also be a 'grazer.' Meaning, he eats a little at a time throughout the day. My son is like that. But my daughter, is the type that does eat a full hearty meal, at meal time. My Husband is a 'grazer' too.

A kid, needs to snack. Eating only 3 meals a day is not enough for them. They are very active and expend so much energy and are also growing a ton.

Have a regular night time/bedtime routine. Going to bed at 9:00pm is late. PRIOR to the actual bedtime... have a Wind-Down time. 1 hour BEFORE the actual bedtime. Make everything dark. Make things quiet. Make things calm. No horseplay before bed. Kids this age need to deflate... before bed. PRIOR to the actual bedtime. So that they can "Transition" to bedtime.
That is what I do with my kids.
No kid will instantly fall asleep, as soon as the lie down. PREP for bedtime, BEFORE bedtime. Making the house, quiet/calm/dark. To allow the child to wind-down. First.

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