Newbie Alert: Playdate Asking Etiquette?

I think you can make it simpler too.

I'd leave a note saying Alicia told me the boys get along very well so I was hoping we could meet up for a play date outside of school. Then suggest a date time and place. Leave your name and phone number and leave it at that.

Personally, as a mom who met with a family outside of school for the first time, I felt more comfortable meeting at a public place vs their home. They ended up being great people, but had they not been....being at their house would have been uncomfortable & torture for me. (Because I tend to be a shy type of person, myself) So I would suggest a public place for meeting.

I think you might be over-thinking a wee bit. Although it i nice to have a game plan in mind.
What about a note saying " Hi! Jimmy would love to have Timmy over to our house to play. How about next Wed. morning before lunch? ###-###-####."

Yes-you are definitely overthinking things :-) Here is what you should do...try to get their phone number from the teacher or look it up somehow. If you can't do this try to run into the parent. If you must, then write a note. And just ask if they would like to meet at the park on Sat or Sunday-you have heard your kids get along and you think it would be fun. Thats all you need to say. I would do it at a park or playplace because you and her don't really know eachother yet. It will be far less awkward than at your home and there will be an "out" for both of you if it doesn't work out. At that age it is important that the kids get along but it is also important that the moms can talk because it is so darn awkward if you cannot. At least for me it is. Once you meet at the park you can make plans for future dates if the vibe is right.

I think it is a great idea, and a neutral location would probably be best. Either a park, or a restaurant with a play area for the kids, I wouldn't be too comfortable going to a person's house I had never actually seen before and I am very friendly. Your note seemed fine to me, is there a way to ever bump into the mom to talk face to face? I have never invited a person who is a stranger to me on a play date, so I am not sure about the etiquette either but I wouldn't mind if I was invited that way, so I say go for it :D

If I don't know the parents/children I like to meet somewhere public first. I want to make sure I'm comfortable with them before I have them at my house or vice versa. Don't be afraid - just leave a note in his cubby or with the teacher. My daughter is still having playdates with one of her friends from a previous daycare - she met her when she was three and she is about to turn seven. I'm so glad her mom left a note for me! It's turned into a nice friendship for me and my daughter.

I would suggest somewhere like a mcdonalds play place. I like those because they are contained and you won't spend the whole time chasing them back to the park play area and away from the parking lot / street etc.