New Baby - Houston,TX

Hey C.!

There is more out there! Don't lose yourself in being a mom and a wife.

Ask your husband to attend counseling with you. Work on your marriage!

If you make yourself happy and secure that will be the first step to making your marriage work and providing a great environment for your child.

Good luck

C.,
I just wanted to respond b/c some comments can be a little harsh, even if they do speak the truth. I feel for you, and hope you make wise decisions regarding your family. Life has no answer book, and we all have to choose our own path. But I do want to say that I share the opinion of the others, that having a baby will not improve an already suffering marriage. If anything, babies put more stress and strain on even healthy marriages b/c babies have to be priority. Most marriages are necessarily neglected during the first year of children's lives. You have a lot to consider. Good luck and God bless.

M. B

Hi C....only you know what your relationship issues are and I do agree with the others in that having a baby will most likely put more strain on your marriage than it will actually "save" it. BUT...I wanted to offer you a bit of hope! I became pregnant with my son at 19 and was unmarried at the time. I wanted the dad to take responsibility and grow up...like I HAD to do. We broke up and got back together numerous times and I refused to date men with kids b/c I didnt want another persons kid, I wanted my others to be with this same man. I wanted kids close together and had the urge SOOOO many times to get pregnant by him again just b/c I wanted another baby. I thank God every day that I had patience and believed that our relationship could be healed. Long story short...5 years later and after much prayer and counseling...we were married and are very happy. I am now pregnant with our second child and KNOW that it would have been such a mistake to have gotten pregnant BEFORE healing this relationship. Granted, my kids will be 8 years apart BUT I now realize that it's not such a bad thing. While I watch my sister manage two kiddos very close in age, I know that I will have a "live-in helper" in my 8 year old. He is anxious to be a big brother and will be wonderful, I know! So, it may not turn out how you have it "planned" but put your relationship as the #1 priority and it will all work out for the good. You took a vow to love, honor and cherish this man so take the time to do that and really put time and energy into showing him how important he is to you...I promise...it will work wonders! You want a peaceful environment for your pregnancy and baby and can't acheive that when there is tension between the two of you. I really hope this helps. Don't be in too big of a rush...you have time! Many blessings on you and your marriage!

If I were you, I would wait until the issues in your marriage are worked out......BABIES DO NOT SAVE MARRIAGES!!!!! It is your personal responsibility to make sure you provide a loving and stable home for your children. Therefore, to INTENTIONALLY bring one into a less than stable environment, is just, well, it's just plain selfish. You may not want to have children "real far apart or from more than one dad", but you could end up with two children and no dad in the home for them AT ALL! As far as your husband thinking a baby might save your marriage, BULLCORN. Babies are a lot of work, and can create tension and stress between two happily married people, much less two people who are having issues. BABIES NEVER SAVE MARRIAGES, besides the fact that it's unfair to have a child under the pretense that it's going to fix the adults. That's not fair!!!! My advice to you is to wait......Good Luck
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