Yesterday my husband and I took my daughter out to ride her bike. We walked out just in time to see two kids collide on their bikes. Initially I was more worried about the girl involved because I saw her basically skid across the concrete, ouch. But the boy involved didn't get up and was saying his ankle hurt. I stopped and went over to him. I asked if he was ok because he was still clutching his ankle. He said, "Yeah." Then let out a sob, so I wasn't sure if he was really ok. So I kinda patted him on the back and asked if he was sure, he said, "Yeah "and tried to stand up and seemed to have trouble. I asked him if he could put weight on it, and he said weight on what? LOL Had to change gears and ask him if he could stand up, and he did.
About then a truck pulls up and what I am guessing was his mom, rolled down her window and and asked if he was ok (didn't even bother to get out) he said he was and got on his bike. This woman shot me the nastiest look. When she pulled away I looked at my husband and said, "What the hell was that about?" He just shrugged. So tell me moms, did I do something wrong here?
It may not have been her son, but she did know his name. My husband said he heard her say, Yeah, You and so and so collided. So either she saw it or the girl (who rode off) went to get her and told her what happened. I heard her same something but I didn't catch it, (I am partially deaf). Hmmm maybe she said thanks and I didn't hear her....maybe that was what the dirty look was for? My husband said he didn't hear her, but maybe we both missed it? I don't know. Sounds like at least most of you think that at least I didn't do anything wrong! :)
YOu were being concerned and kind, so I do not think so. I would have wanted someone to help my child out if it were me!
No you were fine. I had a kid wipe out big time on his bike years ago right in front of my house. I was in the yard and ran over to tend to him. I went in the house, grabbed a towel to help with the wound and my cordless phone so he could call home. Mom drove over to get him, threw the bike in the car, and drove off with not so much as a thanks. Took my towel too which I never saw again. That's ok because at least I did the right thing.
The only thing that I could think of was she is not one to coddle her son when he gets hurt ... more of a brush it off kind of thing and was annoyed that you seemed to be coddling him. I am a fall and brush it off kind of mom but something like that I would have been more involved personally. I do not think you did anything wrong, but I would not worry about it, it's not like to performed first aid and now she can sue you.
It takes a village to raise a child. You acted perfect. You are a caring member of your community. Way to go.
If the boy didn't acknowledge her as "mom" she may not have been his mom but another concerned person, just as you. She may have made an assumption just like you did - she sees you standing over a child, concerned with your husband and daughter and a bike - she may not pay attention to the rest of the scene and conclude that your daughter ran into him. Which YOU know is NOT true but she didn't.
You had concern for a child you obviously don't know - which is fine and great. She didn't know the whole story so she goes off what she sees. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't worry about it. you are placing a lot of concern or worry for something that shouldn't be but a blip on your radar. It doesn't matter what she thinks - does it?
Since she wasn't around to see what happened, maybe she though you or your daughter had something to do with it. Some people love to assume things without finding out what really happened first.
You did great though, I would've also stop and make sure the kids were fine, specially if there were no other adults around.
You absolutely did the right thing.
She may not have been his mom at all, just a stranger who saw a problem and maybe thought you were the mom LOL ( and was mad at you for not thanking her for stopping or pissed because she thought you should be more protective of your child!)!
Perspective is a funny thing -- but you certainly behaved in a most caring way, and any sane mom would/should be completely grateful for your involvement
It may/ may not have been her son.
It could have been someone who knows the child but not you and wanted to just check to make sure he was ok and you werent trying to harm the child. Guessing she didn't see the bike accident.
My guess is also that if it had been her son with the look she shot you she would have had him get in the truck to get him away from you.
Either way you did the right thing and hopefully her response wont make you shy away if something like this happens again ( Im sure you wouldn't!). Thankfully you were there and it wasn't anything worse!
If it would have been my child I would have surely said thank you and appreciated that you tried to help.
You did nothing wrong. You helped a hurt child.
Don't give credence or worry about a stranger did or thinks about you. You don't know her and she doesn't know you. She didn't see the accident happen so she could have been making assumptions based on what she saw.
I doubt very seriously it was his mother - or if she was - she didn't have a maternal instinct to get out of the truck and help her son. I know I would've been out of my truck in a matter of seconds if that had been my child. Heck when Anth got hit by a ball at a game - I jumped the fence to get to the field. oops...embarrassed him real good!!
No. You did everything right. You saw hurt children, followed-up to make sure they weren't seriously hurt. You did what I would do when I don't see a parent around.
I suppose you could have ignored all of that, but speaking for myself, if I see a kid crying on the street with no adult present, I feel like it's my job to at least see that they are okay and further help is not needed. She might have been mad at herself for not having been there, but glaring at you? Had someone stopped to help my son, I would have thanked them.
People are just weird. I'm sorry she treated you that way.
Eh, she was probably pissed that you tried to help her kid before she did. Some people get all weird & insecure about that. She sounds crazy, you didn't do anything wrong. This is exactly why I am leery of helping anyone's kids anymore - parents tend to get bent out of shape, more than being glad or grateful that someone cared enough to help their kid out. I just don't get it.
Eh, who KNOWS what goes on in any woman's head on any given day, you know? Maybe she was having one of THOSE days!
You did the right thing of course. Shrug, right?
:)
Maybe she was just embarrassed that you had to help her kid because she was not there, and she took it out on you? I don't know, but I do know you did not do anything wrong, any normal person would have thanked you.
It is so hard to judge a person's reactions and facial expressions. Perhaps it was worry, concern, embarrassment or guilt going through her mind that really had nothing to do with you. Other times people are just ungrateful. You did absolutely nothing wrong and thank God you were there! What if this boy had been more hurt than he was? Even unconscious! Just forget about the look this woman gave you. You were gracious enough to check on these kiddoes when they needed it. That is most important. I know I would have appreciated it if I wasn't right there with my injured child!
HTH,
A.
