J.M.
Hi D.:
I don't find it surprising at all,that your daughter still likes sleeping with you.Why,when you and she spend the majority of your nights alone,would either of you choose to be separated? With the man of the house not there for protection,she felt safe,and comforted being near you. Who said it was benificial or imperitive,that your child stay on her side of the wall,by herself,and you on the other?I understand your husband wanting to sleep with his wife alone, but he needs to understand,that part of his problem,is a direct result of the hours he must work. You created a close bond with your daughter,and this is not a negative thing. As a matter of fact,its a wonderful beginning for your relationship with her.By the time girls reach their teens,many have issues with their mothers. It's quite possible,that this time you've spent together.Relying on each other for support,while dads been busy away,may be the best thing that ever happened to you both.Because you provide care for other children in your home all week,I'd think that your daughter may feel a little cheated as well.When she sees you preoccupied with those children,maybe she see's her alone time,quality time with you, snuggling up at night. She's not afraid to sleep alone,that's her time. Where she has you all to herself.You sound like a busy mother,who tries desperately to fit all in and make everybody happy.It's obvious,that you adore your daughter and are concerned about her becoming A more independent individual.If I were you,I'd make sure I set aside special time for the two of you a few times a week.Wether it was to go shopping,or just to go treat yourselves to a sundae,and laugh and chat.I'd also get her involved in something outside the home. What ever she might enjoy.Dance,or drama,sports or art. Anything,that would help build self esteem,and help her to feel more independent.As far as her bedtime. I'd talk with her, and tell her,that you want her to enjoy her room you fixed for her,and that you want her to feel she can have a friend over once in a while for (sleepovers)I'd giggle and Make light of the fact,you can't fit her AND her friends in your bed. lol. So she needs to start getting use to using her bedroom.If need be. Let her lay with you a short time until she gets use to it.Or you could lay with her in her bed a short time and leave.I wish you and your darlin daughter the best. J. M.