Needing Some Good Support!

My marriage is on the edge. So I am feeling for you. I've found good friends and support through my children's activities. Are you familiar with the organization "Parents Helping Parents"? They are a private non-profit group to help parents advocate for their special needs children. They do workshops, playgroups, and classes. Getting involved in something like that might give you a place to meet some other moms in similar situations. Where are you located? I'll be thinking about you.

Hi M.!

First off, I'd like to say I understand why your tired. Two children, one with special needs, requires a lot of your attention, so if you have little to no help, this could be very trying for you. If it might help you (and I think it could!!) I teach a class for married couples on Sunday's at Christian Worship Center of San Jose. It's a great class with encouragement and real life topics. Not just "churchy" issues, but the daily issues we face as husbands and wives. We also have lots of great people to hang out with that have been through more than their share of tough times..(you name it,myself or someone close has been there!!)and we've made it through, not just barely, but with 'flying' colors!! Your marriage can feel really empty and hard, but it can be refreshed and new. (believe it or not!!??) I'd be more than happy to give you directions if your interested. I would love to see also if you are eligible for more hands-on sort of aid for your Special needs child. Please feel free to send me a message if you have ANY questions or just to blow off some steam.

Dear M.,

No need to be embarrassed, you are not alone. You've received some good advice, please act on it right away. I along with lots of mama's on this site will be praying for you and your family.

Blessings....

Hi I understand motherhood is a tiring job at times. I recently filed paper for a divorce. I am actually feeling more engery, (maybe less stress with spouse) after I moved out. Anyhow I just join single mothers meetup. I am going to meetup with them soon. But you may want to give it a chance. just a thought. Good luck!

Hello, Where are you located??

Hi M.,

I am sorry to hear that you are tired and not enjoying life right now. It is very difficult trying to take care of children and being unhappy in your marriage. Please be careful that you don't throw in the towel with your marriage before being sure that being "free and single" what will make you happy. It is not always greener on the other side there are just different problems.
I have friends who divorced their spouse thinking that was what was going to make them happy and they wish they would have either gone to counseling or worked with their spouses to make the marriage a good marriage. I have a daughter who works with special needs children and from her I have learned there are MANY free programs to help parents and children. Also have you had a complete physical lately? Maybe vitamins and a little rest helps. Also do you take time for yourself? That is important. Sometimes I get up VERY early so that I get just a little time for me. I can catch up on shows I missed, paint my nails, or just relax with my morning coffee. I am very tired in the evenings so sneaking up to my room for these short "me times" doesn't really work. I wish you the best.
K.

Hi M.,

I know how you feel. I help women who are feeling lonely and powerless get through divorce sanely and whole. I offer a Divorce Support Group as well as one on one sessions. Please call me for a chat! L. Foladare ###-###-#### Mom of 11 yr. old daughter, San Jose

Why so long since you have been close to friends?
In your situation, you can't just walk outside and find a new friend. I agree that Parents Helping Parents could be both a good resource and a good place to meet new friends (who have similar problems), if it is in your area.
Marriage counseling? A vacation? Any relative or neighbor that can watch the kids while you do whatever you need to do?