K.B.
The benefit of using family for childcare is that it is FREE and you know your child safe with a family member. The down side is that it can be difficult to confront a family member if you are unhappy with something they are doing. I think you should talk to her about his crying while you are gone. Maybe she just needs you to show her how you soothe him and what works for you. He probably just needs to get used to her, which may take a few crying spells. Babies can't cry forever, and even if he cries the whole time you are gone, which I doubt, he will be OK. As for taking her with you, maybe you could find a home with an in law apartment. That way she could have her own space, but still be available to help you out. It sounds to me like you don't know how good you have it. Most moms have to do everything themselves, but you have a staff, and family that is willing to help out. Try to be grateful for that.