M.B.
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My 21/2yr. old daughter has been going to preschool since the beginning of 2008 at first for tow days a week, then shortly after three days, usually full days from 9-6! It was an adjustment for all of us and there were times when it was tough to get her ready and out the door for school, but she started to enjoy school more and her friends, never been thrilled with the teachers (me or her)! Summer hit (new room/teacher & friends) and now I can not for the life of me get her to get ready for school, she doesn't want to go! I've had to put her in the car in her underware to get her dressed! How can I get through this! My husband and I've tried waking her up earlier, but that hasn't seemed to work! Now I'm thinking of switching schools, even though new sessions start in two weeks! I'm not happy seeing my daughter not thriving at her school (¬ wanting to be there)! Anyone with similar stories or could suggest anything!
I have decided to change schools! The school I'm putting her in comes highly recommended from my best friends and four other parents I've talked to, plus a friend works there! Plus I've been able to change my hours and days at work so she will be going to school from 8:30-1:30 everyday and take naps at home with me! The consistency of everyday I think will help and it's not such a long day! Here's to hoping this change won't be as stressful! Thank you all for your input I'm greatful to have such a great resource at my fingertips!
What school does she attend?
Dear M.,
n the morning, stick around to talk to other Moms.
First, I would try and talk with other Moms who have kids at the pre-school. When you drop your daughter off in the morning, stick around to talk to other Moms. Ask them how their child is adjusting too school. Also, un-beknowing to the school and your daughter, I would observe her behavior while you are there.
Ask the pre-school director for your kid's classroom list.
With parents names and home #'s. Contact them.
Also, Check out the the BBB for any complaints about the pre-school.
Good Luck,
G. H.
Hi M.,
I was very concerned when I read your comments. As a mother and an educator, I offer this advice. I would try talking with her to find out exactly what the problem is. Simply ask her why she does'nt want to go. You don't want to overreact to what could possibly be a solvable problem.
What I would also do is drop in one day to observe what is going on. Things to look for would be:
other happy children
activley engaged children
structure (schedule of activities)
adults activley engaged with the children ( not sitting being a dictator)
level/tone of voices
Lastly I would talk with other parents.
Just a side note, if you live in broward county, you can look up the schoold licensing report jsut to make sure they up to par with no violations. Go to myflorida.com/childcare and and do a provider search.
I hope this helps.
M.,
It seems your daughter is unhappy. My son went through 3 schools in less then a year and finally found one that fits him and he is happy. A lot of Daycares change there teachers and it can confuse a child. My son was acting up when there was a change in teachers until I ask the director if my son can be placed with someone stable. he stopped acting up. The Daycare he is at has changed him and he loves it. His whole attitude changed and everyone sees it. I do believe a child can pick there school. Like I said it took 3 schools and I know he is loving it and he is learning.
I would talk with the director about your concerns.
Maybe see other schools and bring your daughter to test out the water. i don't know where you live but my son goes to PLC in Boynton Beach. I Love the director and the whole school. They make learning look fun and easy.
Good Luck
i agree that it is probably not a good fit at that school. my daughter hasn't had this problem but I have a few friends who have been through this. Once they changed schools, the problem ended. We are going to be relocating to Jupiter and I am thinking about putting her in a montessori school.
M.,
As a mother you need to listen to your intuition. If you have not liked the teachers and your daughter hasn't either I say that it is time to find a school with teachers that she is going to like the teachers. She is rebeling because she is unhappy with going to a place she is not happy being at. If she does not like the teachers you are going to get this kind of reaction from her. I would not put her through this if I were you, find a place a little more caring and more loving. I know that they are out there. I had my boys in a very loving day care but due to health issues I had to take them out of day care. I wish you all the best of luck.
S.
35 y/o SAHM of 3 boys
13, 5 and 3
