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I think he should go because it's the right thing to do. School employees are taking time out of their personal/free time to help honor the students. I think it's disrespectful not to attend a ceremony in which you will receive a special award. Kind of like a slap in the face, or being a poor sport. I think if he doesn't want to go just to be a brat (which it sounds like he's being), then he doesn't really deserve the award. He's a teenager, he's being ornery because that's what teenagers do. He'll be mad at you for making him go, but he'll forgive you, once he's on the stage & you're clapping for him.

On another note, is there a special treat you could entice him with? Dinner or dessert, after the ceremony?

Make him go. He can tell his friends that you made him. ;)

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WOO HOO! Way to go!
Congrats on a wonderful child with many more accomplishments yet to come! :)

YES, you should make him go! One day he will look back on this and be glad you made him go. Even if he's mad now, he'll get over it. :)

it would be respectful to the place if he shows....it is not all about him it is also others wanting to give it to him. Hard call

There's a difference between doesn't care/doesn't want to go and actively wanting to not go. If it's truly the former, I'd make him go. If it's the latter, the reason why would make a difference to me.

I would tell him to get in the car. He is probably too cool to want to go himself but looking back will be grateful to have gone

I'd hate for you to miss this. Can you convince him that some things you do just for Mom, maybe guilt him with the things you've done for him?
hope you get better ideas from others

yes. he earned it he needs to be responsible and mature enough to receive it.

No. Just asked my son, he is 23, he said no. If you want I will ask my fiancée....

Okay, my son just said if we went without him to something like this he would never speak to us again......

Are you trying to scar your kid for life? Punish him for being a good student?

Tommy said don't make him go! Really my son thinks y'all are crazy. Sorry I don't usually get to ask Tommy questions since he has his own apartment. Apartment yes, food no, so I have company. :p

Here is the thing guys, Tommy answered as he did because if he said no there was a darn good reason. As it is any awards he got he went without complaint. He answered assuming there would be some social scarring if her son went. That would be the only reason he wouldn't go.

The same thing happened to me when I was in high school and I didn't want to go either. I hung out at a friends house the whole day and when it came time to go to the ceremony I changed my mind last minute and went. I showed up in my regular school clothes, jeans and a t-shirt. Everyone else was dressed up in suits and nice dresses. We were up on a stage. My parents were there and the only thing I regret wasn't that I went, but that I was the only one all shlumpy-dumpkin up on stage. My parents seemed proud regardless of my outfit but I always look back on it with embarrassment.

I think he should go. My parents would have made me. And I would probably make my girls. Treat him to something - favorite restaurant or a movie or an outing as a compromise. However after reading the one who's son said no...I dunno! sorry! what'd you do???

Don't make him go if he doesn't want to.

Just smile and wink at him and say, "Come on and humor your old mother! This may be the only time I ever see you get an award, so please let me enjoy it -ME who gave you life and gave birth to you!" Maybe it will work? Good luck. You may seriously want to remind him that life isn't full of awards -even when we deserve them. Tell him he may want to make the most of this!

Make him go if you can. He might care later.