Hi moms,i need advice what to do with my son who is 2 years old and he is jealous of my husband who is his father and when he see us in bed or we are holding hands he push him and doesn't want to be touch by my husbad and get mad, that only happens when we are together but when they are along they play together they dance and sing like a happy father and son as long as i am not around maybe is because he stil sleep with me and his bed i do that because he wakes up so many times at night so i fall sleep in is bed please
any advise i would be very grateful thank you.
Hi,moms thank you all for your respons and is good to know that i am not alone and this is normal, that all childrens go through this stage so thank so much God bless you all :).
I think you should tell him nicely that pushing daddy is not okay. You love him and you love daddy. When he pushes, he is removed from the space. He'll stop pushing when it doesn't work for him.
Get Dr. Leman's book on Have a Different Kid by Friday. It doesn't deal with this issue specifically, but it gave me an awareness that has changed my life.
Stephanie
Ahh, how I dont miss this stage! He will outgrow it. My daughter did this with her dad between 2 and 3 yrs.She would push him away and tell him "my mommy!" We started "family hugs" where all 3 of us have a big hug. We also would continue to hug, sleep, and hold hands in front of her and continued telling her it was okay for us to touch each other. She did eventually grow out of it, and he will too. Positive reinforcement will give him a healthy image of family.
My daughter is turning 2 in June and does not like it when my husband and I touch at all. She is ok with us alone or together, but if we touch it's a "no no" to her. Just letting you know you're not alone :O)
Hi E.,
I am a mother of a 16 mos old son. I am also sleeping with my child. Which is okay. Animals has been doing it for centuries. It is a bond between Mommies and their youngs.
My baby sometimes doesn't like to have Daddy around either. It is just a part of them adjusting to things. Pretty normal.
Enjoy everything thing that they do. Good, bad and/or silly. Babies do things according to their pace and mood anyway. Nothing we can do to stop that.
He is two now, but someday he will be 18 yrs old and out of the house. Just cherish everything and savor the momemt.
When boys grow up they bond more with Daddy anyway. If he only wants you know. Enjoy it!!!!
Good luck :-).
This is a natural process with every child, but even more so with boy children. They want mom all to themselves, and dad is competition. Of course, he loves you both, but he has an natural instinct to try and keep mom for himself. My son has done the same thing and now is out growing it. You should continue to set boundaries and use common sense, but accept that your son has a deep longing and love for his mom that he wants no other to have. Continue to love on your husband and vice versa, and take time to go out together. This is actually very good for a child's mental health, as he witnesses the strength of his parent's marriage.
Hang in there!
Yeah, I remember the stage. My son who's now 3 used to do that too. (a year ago?) Like other Moms said, I'm sure that he'll outgrow it. My fried told me that babies go through stages and sometimes they like mom better than dad and vice versa. (My son is going through Daddy stage now) And now seeing my son going through stages, I believe her :)
In Japan, it's very common for parents to sleep with their kids till they're older. I grew up sleeping with my mom and my sister till I was about 10 (due to the space problem). I personally don't sleep in the same room as my son, but there shouldn't be any problem sleeping with him as long as you're okay. If that was a problem, many Japanese kids would have problem!
