Need Help with Bedtime Issues

I have two 12 year old daughters. They do not share a room but they are upstairs away from us and across from each other. Their bedtime is 10:00pm and they tend to finally get lights out at 10:30-10:40. If we catch them later than 10:15pm with lights still on or talking, not in bed or whatever the case should be, then the next night they have to go to bed 30 minutes earlier. Each time they do it, 30 minutes earlier...they start to learn they don't like going to bed at 9-9:30pm.

Hope this helps.

Maybe you could put a movie on in their bedroom. Kids usually fall asleep watching TV if they're tired. Have them go to bed a little earlier and take turns picking out the movie. Or you could let them listen to music and give them headphones if they can't agree on the same kind of music.

Good Luck

If all else fails...bribe them. For example, offer a quarter each for every night they go to bed easily and put it in a jar. At the end of the week/month they get to take their jars and shop a little. You could even go so far as to take money out for troublesome nights!
~L.

There are a few things you can do.

1. Divide there room giving each girl some space, my mom did this for me and my sister.
2. Allow them to do what they want so long as they are in thier room, you go in your room turn the radio on and do your home work, ignore, ignore, ignore, it is possible they are looking for your attention and want you to come in the room.
3. Start taking things away from them everytime you have to go into thier room, and don't give it back until they give you a week of "peace" at night. This means sticking to your guns and not backing down.

Thats all I've got but good luck!

H., put one to sleep in there bedroom and the other to sleep in your bedroom. Then when you go to bed you make the one in your bed get up and walk to her room.

Take turns if neither of them offer to sleep in your room. If they both hate it, maybe they will get along better and if they like it you have no fighting.

good luck, M. b

I had the same problem with my two boys. I finely set an hour earlier bed time for a week and when they started in again I let them know that it would be and hour earlier the next day. I stuck to that. I did it for, I think it lasted about two or three weeks. They never faught it after that again. When they started in again I would asked them if they wanted an hour early the next night and they would tell me no and go to sleep. I also am a full time student.

They may need to feel like they have their own space. What if you divided the room in some way with a sheet or blanket so that they had their own "room".

Hello,
I say everynight they argue make them go to sleep earlier. And if it contiunes keep making the bed time earlier. Stick to it tho. They might get ot the point where they eat diner and then go to bed. They wont actaully sleep the whole time but they will get the picture.

Also dividing there room with a sheet might make them not argue with one another.

I do like the idea of keep taking things away from them and that they get nothing back until they can go to bed for a week without fighting. However I suggest that if they get the stuff back that is they go back to fighting you immediatly take back everything they jsut got back.