i am not from united states i born where culture tells you what you should do i have been arranged married for 20 years now and i am tired now i cannot take this mentally abusive relationship any more i could have done this long time ago but again my family and culture stopped me my life is miserable he control all the money he doesnt give us any money i tried 3 times in 20 years to leave him but it didn't happened i have four children now one in college which he is paying for college two in high school and one is 2 years old he cheated 2 years ago i caught him on datting sight spoke with few women who accepted his offer to meet up with him all that was happening when i was 5 month pregnant he loves his money all he cares is money how he can save up and dont have to spend on us i finnally decided to file for divorce my credit is not that great bcz i have credit card bills and when he doen't give us any money i used those cards to survive i need a good advice for a lawyer i dont have money to pay retainer amount i can arrange monthly payment he pulled a gun on my fifteen year old son and i am scared to live with him anymore my kids are everything to me i dont want anything happened to them he is cruel mean and very disrespectful person i will have to fight in the court to get support from him bcz he do not believe in supporting us he call himeself that he is very unfortunate to have a family and kids need help from a good lawyer but cannot pay high retainer if someone can please help me to get out from this miserable life please help me
Dear S., I also recommend you contact Mosaic Family Services. They can help the number for their domestic violence program is ###-###-####. Will be praying for you.
Find a women's shelter in your area. They can help you in all aspects of your situation. Google Grapevine women's shelter.
S.,
Good for you for wanting the best for you and your kids, it takes a lot of strenght to stay in such a difficult situation.
Please get help from a domestic violence agency. There is one in Dallas, Mosaic (it used to be called that) who has a very multicultural approach and it has counselors and advocates from many parts of the world. You do not need to go to a shelter immediately if you don't want to, just start talking to them and making a plan to leave. They have legal support, financial support, etc...Family Place and Genesis are also good ones. Leaving him can be the most dangerous moment, don't do it alone and without a plan.
You can start talking with a counselor, for free, and feel better about yourself and what you want to do. I wish you the best
Call 1−800−799−SAFE (1−800−799−7233) for the Domestic Violence hotline. They can give you great advice and put you in touch with someone in your area to help. In some cities the YWCA has a temporary shelter you can live at until you get back on your feet.
