my son is about to be 2years old and does not talk like a 2year old should , everyone says when he is ready to talk he will but i wish he would because then when he wants something i would understand then him just crying half the time i never understand what he wants because he doesnt even point what he wants either, the only words he says now is mom & dad and there some other words but you got to listen carefully but he does it once in the blue moon.. i was just wanted to no if anyone went through what im going through with my son and when they think he will start actally talk?------thanks
My son started to talk pretty late. He was way past 2.5 when he finally started to talk. He just wasn't ready before that. Once he started there was a phase when he talked not very well, but at least I understood him, but eventually he caught up with the other kids. He is in 1st grade now and talks, reads and writes very well. Just be patient and keep an eye on it.
The most concerning part of this issue is that he's not pointing either. My son was not talking or pointing at 18 months and we went to EI and started speech therapy. I strongly suggest that you contact your pediatrician and use the EI services. The earlier you get help for him, the better.
Always better to get help by being proactive. It's out there, available and FREE for kids under 3. ask your pediatrician to Dx a speech evaluation right away. Why wait? People mean well, saying "he'll talk when he's ready, etc., but they are not experts!
Another thought--have you tried teaching him some basic sign language? It might help with his frustration. Good luck!
Hi - your son sounds like mine at the same age. So many people said things to us like, "boys talk later" "when he's ready he'll talk", etc. DO NOT take the passive advice. This is your son and you are the advocate. Turns out, in our situation, it was NOT simply a 'boys will be boys' delay - he was diagnosed with developmental delays.......Talk to your pediatrician and find out about the states early intervention (0-3) program. It may not be necessary but if so - the earlier the better.
I agree with everyone to have him evaluated by early intervention. Also to have his hearing checked. Early Intervention is free is so helpful to so many children. Both of my children had it. My daughter did very well with signing/ you can look up online to teach yourself some basic signs. She did talk okay, but despite her hearing test coming back okay I suspect she has a processing issue as she makes up words or doesn't say them right, similar but not right. So we are in the process of now learning sign language. Signing is helpful to kids even without hearing problems. Pre-verbal kids can use it to communicate. Teach him simple signs like milk and juice the things he would want. And talk about everything you do, along with the signs. Encourage him to make the signs for things he wants and give him lots of praise when he does. It is hard when kids can't yet tell you what they want and even harder when they are not using non-verbal forms like pointing. So again Early Intervention can really help with this.
Kids do start talking at all different times, but if you're worried, call your son's pediatrician and ask how you get him evaluated for speech. There is a program called Early Intervention that will come to your house and check your son over to see if he's on track, or if he could benefit from some therapy or additional assistance. It's usually free -- depends on the state. It can't hurt for you to call to get an evaluation.
Lots of times a delay in talking could be related to hearing problems. Are you sure that he can hear clearly? Can he follow directions?
You should speak to your pediatrician about your concerns. You can also check in your phone book or with the Board of Education to see if you have Birth to 3 or Early Intervention program in your area.
I am going through the same thing with my son (now 2 and a half). He was talking very little and not using words to express his needs. My cousin recommended I contact Early Intervention and have him evaluated. It turned out his vision was preventing him from being able to see words formed. It took a while for him to wear his glasses and he went through a silent pointing phase because he could finally see. He's talking a LOT more and repeating everything now. But- sometimes I still have to say, "Use your words," "Tell me," or "show me" when he whines or cries. (I used to just say, "Oh, you want juice!?" and anticipate all of his needs with one cry... Now I have to try to make him tell me or at least show me)
It gets better! Early Intervention was a huge help for us (and the glasses).
Good luck!
My son didn't talk until after her was 2 (he's almost 4 now and won't shut up!). By 2 he only said hi, bye and dede(for dada). Didn't get mama until 26 months or so. He did early intervention and that helped alot. My son did, however, point to what he wanted and made lots of grunts and sounds. I also taught him some sign language that helped. Talk to the doctor when he goes in for his 2 year wellness checkup.
Has your son had an unusal number of ear infections? If so get his hearing checked. Once you know if that is the issue and the problem is corrected move on with speech therapy to get him on track. If cost is an issue check with your local school district.
One of my sons had repeated ear infections that effected his speech. When he spoke it sounded like the conversation you hear from outside the pool when your are under water.
He had fluid in his ears so that is what he heard when we spoke to him. If that seems to be the problem, see an ear nose and throat doctor and get things check out.
My GD did not talk until she was almost four - now she doesn't stop talking! Some kids, especially, boys, start talking later than others. The pediatrician told my daughter-in-law to wait until 3. If she wasn't talking by then, then to seek intervention. So give it some time. You could encourage him by not giving him things until he makes some sort of gesture - either tries to say it, sign or point. Boys can be lazy - they need incentive.
My son is 3 1/2 and is finally starting to make sense (to others at least) when he talks. His vocabulary is growing and he is pronouncing his words better, and we can have conversations now. But he still gets in that rut where he is so upset he can't find the words and just cries.
My daughter was talking extrememly well at 18 months.
It's just different for each kid, and I've heard boys are slower at talking and that is what I've seen in my family. Around 3, I thought I may get a consultation with a speech therapist for my son, but then he started making progress so I didn't.
It's a frustrating time, for sure, but he will catch on.
My girlfriends son is now 3 and just starting to talk a bit. But his talking began after close examination, testing and discovering that he was showing signs of autism. He's in class for special needs now where they are working with him and his progress is totally amazing. Your school district may also offer some help aside from your pediatrician.
i am in the same boat with my almost 3 year old...let me tell you what I did...
He had bouts of allergies and ear infections since he was small so part of his issue was discovered at the ENT when his hearing test came back pretty bad. That was right around when he turned 2. He had tubes put in and it fixed the hearing problem (not saying this is your issue, but just hear me out :) ) Now to move onto his delay...the delay was due partly to his hearing issues. Plus he's a boy and boys seem to talk slower than girls do anyways (my experience with my first son too! he's 5 now). We contacted Early Intervention and had him start speach therapy. This helped greatly and it's free. I believe every state has something like this. He had therapy for about 6 months and you can definitely tell a difference. Also, he's in day care with a bunch of other kids that talk so that helps too. Things that YOU can start doing to help right away are things like telling him everything that you're doing. Like if you know he wants juice, tell him "You want some juice? OK I'm opening the refridgerator, getting out the juice, pouring it in the cup and here is your juice in your cup!" Also, start teaching him sign language. This helped us a lot. We started teaching him basic words for things we knew he wanted, like hungry, cup, banana, apple, mom, dad, etc. There's a ton of free resources online plus Early Intervention can help too.
I understand how you feel...it's extremely frustrating for you but you need to imagine how he feels too...he knows what he wants but can't tell you what it is. If you were in that situation, you would scream and cry too! just don't get angry or frustrated...this is a difficult time for both of you. He'll get it soon and you won't be able to shut him up!
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How old is your son? There is a huge difference between 18 months and 24 months typically speaking. Here is some info that may help you:
http://www.ldonline.org/article/6313/
My son is 18 months old on the 26th and he says Mama, Dada, Kitty-Kat, Baf (bath), night-night, tuck-tuck (tuck me in), duck, kick, ball, baba (bottle) and that is about it for his vocabulary. He also will point to his head, toes and parts of the face and knows what sound about 6 animals make...
If you are still concerned, talk to your pediatrician at your 2 year visit. You can ask for evaluation.
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