L.B.
I was having the same feelings before I put my son into day care. I was court reporting at the time and could do most of my work from home. It was maddening. I put him in day care and got a grip on my well-being.
I have total admiration for those who are stay-at-home moms, but one of the best things I have done as a mother was put my children into a WONDERFUL day care. I wouldn't feel the same way if God didn't direct me to such a great place. I wish I could say I could give them everything, learning and socializing, they get there. I'm older and don't have the energy I wish I had having little ones.
Anyway, for us, putting them in day care and working part-time has provided the best balance for us. It has put us on a great schedule that's healthy for the kids and me and my husband. I do hear all the time, "You're such a great mother." I reply, "I'm a great mother because of day care and God's guidance."
Don't be afraid to make whatever adjustments fit your family. It's different for everyone. It was also great when it came to do timeout, and my son practically taught us how it went. Day care has been a Godsend for us. But as I stated before, make sure it's the right day care or Mother's day out program.
Accepting limitations and filling in the gaps is what makes a good mom. Please discover what it is you're needing and they're needing and don't let guilt deny any of y'all that.
Best wishes.