Need Advice from Other Working Moms

Okay .... first - you and your husband need to talk. You have to work together and be a family. Threats never are a good thing.

As for the travel - I would do the first trip alone and have the nanny stay with the baby. Do you have enough stored milk so that you can freeze it while in NY and just bring it home? The second trip try bringing the nanny and baby. My only reason is so that you can see how the first one goes as far as time. When my girlfriends travel - they work from 7 or 8 am until after dinner time because they are required to be a work dinners. I would hate for you to pay all the additional money and have you be so exhausted that you struggle to function. Once the first trip is done, then you have an idea of how the time will pass.

Good luck - you will be great and so won't your baby - we tend to miss them more than they miss us!

Sounds like your employer is more supportive than your hubby.

My husband always over stresses and makes a much bigger deal out of things than necessary, as well, on the flip side, doesn't take the right things serious.

I insist on working and keeping my own income flow, even though it all dumps into the same account and all goes out the same way.

Even if you did get spousal support because you quit and he so decided to divorce, it wouldn't last forever. It is always important (to me) to show you are capable of doing things with or without them. No disrespect to them, but just my perspective.

wow new job is no reason to be a jerk, but I'd say pay to have your mom or nanny to go with you and take both kids. Travel with mommy can be fun and you'll get time with them as well as give your husband a stress free start to his job.Once he's more secure in his job then it might be a better time to discuss you going part time

I'll keep my opinion of what your husband said to myself...

But I would take my mom and kids with me. Good luck on your decision!

"he says that the more I complain about it, the less likely he is to even consider having me go part time or quit because he doesn't want to pay spousal support and child support."

Let me get this straight... he's threatening to divorce you if you go down to part time or quit???

A married person doesn't pay their spouse "spousal support OR child support"... all the money that comes into the partnership is "ours". Many many people don't have the joint checking account thing, but are still a family. A parent doesn't pay child support to their family, they CONTRIBUTE to the care and raising of their family & household. Just as a parent doesn't "babysit" their own child, they parent their child. Both are important distinctions, that define the difference of being a part of a family versus an outsider.

I'd be taking my kids/mother/nanny with me.

I agree with the other post! take your babies with and enjoy your down time with them and get your work done! he has no right to act like that stressed or not!! who needs him you can do it!

S. C.
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I have done both re: bringing a nanny on trips or leaving my daughter home (the first biz trip was 4 nites away in NYC when she was 4 months old). Either is fine - you get better sleep when they don't come :) but it's always a great experience to let the nanny take them on adventures in a new city. The city & Central park will be cold in January! So you'll have to pack heavy winter clothes. Call the hotel and make sure they will provide a crib and a mini fridge. You may be able to rent strollers/etc if you don't want to take them. I always take our Bob.

I have pumped and shipped a lot of milk while I nursed my little one. Had to dump pumped milk too, sniffle. Would be happy to discuss further if you have questions.

Husbands....nothing like having a baby to bring out their best and worst.