I would like some advice or just your opion. Im 34 and would like to have anther child. The money is tight and im not getting any younger. So do i have anther baby and deal with the cost as it comes or wait till we have the money and risk the chance we might never have the money to have a baby.
Its been awhile since i asked everyone for their opion. The convertaions were long and the dission has been made. We have decided to have anther baby. Thank you to all who supported me. My hsband and i despertly want a little boy. But if god blesses us with anther girl we will be delighted. Either way we have decided this next child will be are last. Im not pregnant yet, but we have stopped useing birth control. Thanks again for all the support.
If we were to wait until we were finacially ready we probably wouldn't never have children. Girl go for it....
if you want another child do it. All you need is food for them to eat and a roof over their head. Everything else is just for fun. My husband and i dont have much money having twins and major doctors bills and now that i just lost my job. Yes i would love to buy everything my boys wanted, but on the other hand if we do that then they wont have respect or the understanding that not everything is free or easy to come by. most kids today have everything given to them they dont have any respect.
go for it and you will be able to work it in your budget.
I agree with Summer. But on the other hand, if we all waited until we had money, we'd never have children either. It is a personal decision. I have 5 kids and am 41 now. I am glad I didn't wait and money has always been tight for us. Our family is close and the kids all doing quite well....never any problems(major ones). What does your husband say? Talk it over with him and decide together. If you decide to have another child, know that somehow we all seem to make it.
S. M
I've had three kids and I'm still waiting for money. Most people spend what they make. Money is temporary. Kids are forever. Have the kid, if your hubby's in agreement -- it could be years before you have money!!
I would venture to say that if we all waited to have children until we could afford it my guess would be that over half of the children born anually wouldn't be. I say if it's only a matter of worrying if you can give a child things you never had or any of that, don't. Only you can truly say whether you can "afford" another child. If you can feed, clothe, educate and love another child, go for it. I have 5 children, now grown (21-33) that I felt I couldn't afford but they never went hungry, always had a place to live, plenty of clothes to wear (not designer) and I wouldn't do anything any different if I had known before hand. Each of my children were unexpected blessings and I cannot imagine my life without any one of them in it.
Hi S.,
You are blessed to have two beautiful and happy children! With that being said why not have another baby if that is what you want.
As long as you and your husband both want another baby and are in full support of one another as this being both your decision, then do what your heart is telling you to do. Money is the number one cause of divorce so I would just be sure that this is a decision you make together.
More and more I am hearing how our generation’s kids need to learn to fend for themselves. Get jobs early, apply for student loans and financial aid, work hard for scholarships, etc. Parents are not to go into debt paying for their kids’ education. you should not go into debt to have them either, but you should do what is best for you and your family unit. And only you can decide too how old is too old.
Good luck and happy baby making <grin>!! Let us know what happens…I may need to use some of your advice to make up my own mind…
Do what you feel is right. It is not anyones place to tell you how to live your life. If you feel you can maintain on a super tight budget then do so and if not then dont.. Just follow your heart and gut. I hope all goes well for you. I say "FLY LIKE THE WIND BULLSEYE"
Do we ever have enough money for our kids? What is enough? I am 34 and just had my first. I want another one within at least 2 years. I was laid off in December and at this time am collecting severance and unemployment, but by the time I am ready to have #2, there will be only one income as I am staying home now. I say go for it if you can and are not too strapped. You want to be able to provide for your children but if you wait until you have enough money, you may be waiting a long time.
Good Luck on your decision!
