I am surprised by a lot of answers. But I get that this is a very emotional Q&A.
Based on our personal history and experience, yes. Money SHOULD be taken into account when having children. A lot of answers say 'no' but then go into things like budgeting, cutting off health clubs or other things. So in the end, everyone does seem to agree that money should be considered.
If you have a high mortgage and a high credit card debt (plural?), you're asking for trouble. In this economy, your mortgage could go red and you end up with balloon payments you cannot afford and then your home is taken away. We have seen this happen all over the community we used to live in. Credit card bills? If you are in debt and only able to pay part of your invoices, you are basically on a hamster wheel the rest of your life bc you are paying interest over and over and over which means, in the end, you will have paid 500x what you ACTUALLY purchased on those credit cards.
You also have to consider what you're willing to give up for #3.
How long can you go without eating at restaurants, making all of your meals from generic brands, shopping at wholesale and resale shops, not buying extras like books or magazines, no health clubs, no vacations, no trips to the salon or getting your hair highlighted.
Trust me... if you are that tight on money, those things go OUT the window (or should!).
We've been there. Had to when we were surprised with #1. And we both had good jobs. It stunk going from one lifestyle to another. I really felt sorry for myself.
Trust me, I LOVED my daughter and being a parent but it was hard seeing others get to do all these things and have all these things that I USED to do/have and after a while it becomes a HUGE stress.
And temptation WILL get you.
I had a friend who went against the "money should not be a factor, my son needs a sibling" thing. she had a daughter and couldnt pass down clothing so had to get all new clothes and now depends on family to help her (that is not fair! your choices shouldn't effect those around you, family, government or society). Though I am not against social welfare. She has had to move several times bc they lost their house and never thought her husband would lose his job.
You have to think about the unforeseen!
what if you have that 3rd and you DO lose a job?
you must plan ahead.
if you don't have a savings account, but more importantly you're in high debt? it's not the 'best' idea. anything could happen. (loss of job, severe illness, bankruptcy, lose your house etc).