I was in a mom's club for almost 2 years. I was quite active and was a co-organizer as well. I had a falling out with the lead organizer, or should I saw she left me a nasty 6 page e-mail, about hor rude I am ect. First, I know these things are not true, and I have talked with other mom's in the group. I have left the group and am no longer in it. The organizer wants to talk it out and acts like nothing happenend, e-mails me ect. Now, she has me blocked on most things, and I only have the business e-mail up that she can contact me, until all business is taken care of. My question is do I meet with her, or just move on? I don't want to be hurt again, I would certainitly want an apology. I am not sure what to do. She has hurt me very much and I am not sure that I would want to be friends again ect. Any thoughts.
Print all the correspondence with her out and have a meeting with ALL the members. Share the information and vote her out.
Nanc
ahhhh yeah, she should be gone from your life. drama queens. start your own club. heck, i'll join :)
I'm with everyone else, screw the moms club and just ignore this woman. You don't need that kind of drama.
Lynsey
It's so awful, the way mamas can bring so much drama to their lives! I'm sorry you're going through this. I would just quit the group completely, and organize stuff with the friends you've made.
It stinks, but it's really not worth the stress and conflict. She's a jerk, and all you have in common with her is that you both have a kid(s). Moms groups are crazy that way. I know, because I started one in my area too! And while I've really enjoyed getting to know some of the moms, others are rude and full of complaints. I'm pretty over it myself, and it recently hit me- I just don't have time for this drama and nonsense! All I was looking for was playdates and some friends to chat with, you know??
Do you want to be friends with her? If so, then work it out. But if she's just not a great person, then let it go. There's no reason you need that mama's group, when you can just hang out with the members you've become friends with on your own! :)
Start your own moms club and be your own lead organizer. This sounds like high school drama to me and can be very draining. Move on don't give her a second thought and learn from your experience with a women like this. She sounds like she has WAY to much time on her hands. Good luck I know your hurt but put your positive energy somewhere that it is appreciated. I had these experiences with PTA organizations as well. Sometimes when you are involved with large groups of women this behavior comes with the territory. They forget the purpose of what the group is about and it becomes all about them. Good luck
My Advice...You are an Adult and you have conducted yourself like one. You also are spending way too much time & energy on this person...She is sooooo not worth it...
I say SCREW her, and the darn Mom's Club... Start your own, and you be the lead organizer! At least you have learned from this experience HOW NOT TO TREAT PEOPLE! Where do you live, I'd join your club...I live in Brooklyn, New York...
Best of Luck on your NEW venture! You've got my support and every Mamasource Mom (I'm sure, as well)!! CC
As my grandmother used to say... "good riddance to bad rubbish!". She had her opportunity to make ammends following the (inappropriate) email. She's likely catching flack for her behavior from the other members of the group. You don't need to meet with her unless you believe that her apology is genuine. If it were me, I would let it go and move on. She doesn't sound like a person who is worth investing the time necessary to rebuild a damaged friendship.
You need to figure out what is more important to you. Im not saying this to be mean or rude. But is the club or your feelings more important? If the club means a lot to you then you need to swallow your pride and realize this woman is not the most tactful, but it seems she misses your expertise and wants to make amends. Meet with her and clear the air. You could go back to the club and be friends with the other moms and ignore this other womans actions.
But if your feelings are more important, then I would cut all ties with her and the club. Remain friends with the other moms on the outside, but refuse to talk about the club with them.
Take some time to decide what is more important and then follow through. Good luck.
