Nanny - Cayey, PR

It's very, very, very kind of you to offer babysitting services to someone for free. But it's not your baby. She had this baby and it is her responsibility to find care for the child while she works, not yours. You are not doing yourself, this baby, or your teenagers any favors by further injuring yourself in order to make someone else's life easier. Why wouldn't you tell her the truth?? Tell her she needs to find alternative care and then give her a reasonable deadline, like maybe 2 weeks or whatever you are comfortable with. The baby will only get heavier and eventually will become mobile so you will injure yourself even more the longer you wait. Seems to me it's a worse idea to not say anything and then one day you get injured so badly that you can not babysit AT ALL anymore and she'll be stuck scrambling to find another sitter with no notice at all, right?

If you are already straining to pick up this baby, you're only going to injure yourself more the longer you wait. Tell the mom that as much as you love the baby, you can't physically care for her anymore. Let her know that you will still want to visit with her and be a part of her life, but can't risk the health of yourself and the baby. What if your neck or back went out while you're holding her?
The Department of Social Services has loads of information and assistance with child care that the mom would probably qualify for. There's help available, she just has to go through the process. Good luck!

Sometimes we just need to know when to stop. This may be that point for you. What beautiful and giving heart you have. Boy, your good works slate must be full. If only the world had more people like you who give and help freely and for free. -just because you saw someone who needed help. You will be richly blessed. Hey, I know you are attached, but you are going to hurt yourself further if you don't stop now. I think the mother will understand.

take good care of yourself now you want to be your very best when you get older and as you age. the best to ya.
Jen

I would let the mom know because now it becomes a safety issue for both you and the baby. Please refer this mom to AuPairCare- a live in childcare program http://aupaircare.com/