Wow, there is a lot going on here..
First of all Counselors in schools are really not there to do therapy. You need to find a therapist for your son and then also use this therapist as a family counselor.
The first thing to remember is that whether the home life was good or bad when your husband and his ex were married, they were a family in the eyes of their children.
I am a child of divorce, but I was the oldest. My sister was young, so she was not as aware of what the true dynamics were. She was devastated when our parents divorced.. she still has not totally dealt with it. It still affects her life and her relationships but she does not want to work on it , because of the pain it causes her..
The therapist told us divorce in a family is just like a death to a child. It is not something you can always get over because time has passed. It has to be dealt with in stages.
This little boy has a lot going on in his head and heart. He is crying out for help, while everyone else has been able to move onto their new life.
I strongly suggest, you all take time, to put his needs first and decide how to get him through this.
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Wow, there is a lot going on here..
First of all Counselors in schools are really not there to do therapy. You need to find a therapist for your son and then also use this therapist as a family counselor.
The first thing to remember is that whether the home life was good or bad when your husband and his ex were married, they were a family in the eyes of their children.
I am a child of divorce, but I was the oldest. My sister was young, so she was not as aware of what the true dynamics were. She was devastated when our parents divorced.. she still has not totally dealt with it. It still affects her life and her relationships but she does not want to work on it , because of the pain it causes her..
The therapist told us divorce in a family is just like a death to a child. It is not something you can always get over because time has passed. It has to be dealt with in stages.
This little boy has a lot going on in his head and heart. He is crying out for help, while everyone else has been able to move onto their new life.
I strongly suggest, you all take time, to put his needs first and decide how to get him through this.