OK, so I wrote back in January for tips on who to get my 3 year old to poop on the potty. Well, now I can say that things have gotten out of hand. For a while he would ask for a pull up, but has since refused to put one on...but he still won't go on the potty. So he started to hold it in and then was scared to go because he had one painful experiece. He has been taking milarax everyday for about a month and that helps him go but he still holds it for 2-3 days and when he finally does go it is in him underwear - yuck!
I am really at the end of my rope because his behavior changes when he has to go. He doesn't want to play or do anything but sit on the couch (a security thing I imagine).
Some advice I have gotten is to ignore it, but it is impacting our ability to do things and his behavior. I really need some help - I know this is a common problem and I don't know the next step to take.
Thanks so much!
I know I am a bit late in sending this...but when my son did this I told him he was going to starve the poop monster that lived in the septic tank..after that he would say "I gotta go feed the poop monster mom" and we never had another issue with it, except in public toilets, I had to explain that all toilets have a hungry poop monster and he could feed them all. Good luck. J.
Goodmorning
we actually went through the same thing with my oldest son and belive it or not we told him that the poo was going to see his friends at the factory ...
and belive it or not he went and pooed and was so excited....
This works
good luck
T.
Out in public potties can be terrified. My 3 year old son has a foldable potty seat that fits on top of a big potty and that is what he uses when he has to sit down. They fit nicely into a bag. You can get them at target or babies r us. Our son also did better potty training standing up... that way when we are in public he just stands on my feet when the potty is to tall and he doesn't have to touch anything.
Merry Christmas... hope this helps.
S.
Hello R.,
It wasn't long ago I had this same issue with my child who is now working on being 5 on St. Patricks day.And just like your little one he would pee fine but not the other.Doctor told us it was because his stools are harder now and that it hurts him to go but that he'd get past it,which he did.So just try not to force him into it and just be sympathetic and understanding to him and let him hold your hands or a stuffed animal while going to the bathroom.It would also help my son sometimes if I'd pretend that the bear also had to go and we'd put the bear on the potty and pretend he was going.As for being out,buy a child potty seat that fits over the adult ones. There are ones that fold in for easy packing and they sell them at franchises like Wal-mart.
My son is going through the same thing. I bought a sponge bob fold in four seat cover at wal mart that fits any thing. It makes it alot less scary. The seat fits in a large zip lock so its very easy to have with you and i always have it with me cause my son i thinks has to see every bathroom in the Atlanta area!
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I am not sure on how to help you with your child going poop in the potty but as far as out and about, buy a small potty and leave it in your car along with a box of tissues or tolit paper. When he is done dump it under your car. My car potty has come in very handy since we travel alot and there are very few rest areas along the highways in south and north carolina.
My son was the same (he is 5 now). I put up a calendar by the potty and each time he went he put a sticker on it...and with poop, we did a special dance and I made a HUGE deal out of it...I also gave him a mini m&m or smartie or something when he did. It takes a while but he will do it!
Do you try to have him use the big potty or a little potty. If you are using a big potty maybe you should get a little one that sings praises or something. My two year old loves it..
Take the potty training potty with you in the car! That way he can poo in a safe and comfortable spot. Also, take some extra wipes, plastic grocery bags or anything else you may want for clean up. I have heard that some people actualyl put the plastic sack in the potty so the child poos directly in it. Much easier for lcean up! In another potty training book I read that you can make a list of everyone who would be proud of him when he poops in the potty. When he really does poo in the potty, call the people on that list and let them congratulate him! Good luck!
Worst comes to worst leave the poop in the toilet. If not let him step out near the door of the stall and then you flush it. Sometimes just being 5 ft away can help with the scary and noise. Also sometimes they just want to know where the poop is going. They think they have worked so hard to do they dont want it to go.
We went through the same thing with my daughter. She was almost 4, but still wouldn't poop in the potty. She would ask for a diaper- I had to keep some on hand just for that. Bribery worked for us. We told her if she pooped in the potty, we'd go get ice cream. Every time she asked for a diaper, I'd remind her that if she pooped in the potty, we'd go get ice cream. But other than that, I totally did not harp or nag or anything. One week later, success! Of course it was 10pm, but we did absolutely run right out to Brusters and get ice cream. She still used the diapers, but started using the potty, too, and we would go get ice cream every time. As the frequency increased, we weeded out the ice cream reward, and soon we were diaper-free. The whole thing took less than 2 months.
If he is happy pooping in a diaper, don't hold out on him. I tried just not putting a diaper on my daughter, thinking she would use the potty out of necessity, but she just held it for a week at a time and wound up constipated. Talk about counterproductive.
I was in the same situation with my son. I started bribing him last month with what "Santa" will bring him if he started to go in the potty. It worked! And he was probably just ready. It'll happen. Don't stress too much! We bought one of the little seats that fit on top of the toilet.
We a little folding potty seat we use if my son need to go poo at a store and for tee tee he stand up like a big boy and just goes we didn't really start doing well with training until he went to the potty at a store, if the potty is too tall of him he stands on my feet or my husbands feet if he takes him. We have more success at a store than we do at home cause he's busy playing at home and in a store hes just sitting in the buggy.
Hey R.,
My daughter, who is now 5, wouldn't poop in the potty for a long time. She would go put on a pull-up, do her business, then we'd get her cleaned up and she'd put her panties back on. She did this until about 4. (It was alot better than having it happen in the panties). Peer pressure finally got the best of her. I know that's not the best answer, but, as I'm sure you've figured out, they do stuff on their own timetable.
Good luck.
Hi R.!
Potty training is so much fun isn't it? When I potty trained my son, I kept the potty in my car for when he needed to go while we were out. I did not take him to go in the public bathrooms until he was first of all, tall enough to stand and pee in the toilet by himself at home, and second, he could sit on the large toilet by himself at home. Honestly, he didn't like to go in public bathrooms at first either (I think it's a comfort thing- he's more comfortable going in a familiar place). I usually made it a habit to have him go to the bathroom before we left. Also, try to make potty training as fun as possible. We had several books about potty training that we read, and also when we first started, I would reward him with a sugar-free popsicle when he finished. He usually only went poopie once a day, so this worked for me, he loved getting a treat. I phased these out to every once in a while, once he was comfortable pottying. The biggest thing is to just be patient . It's definately a long, slow process, but he'll get it. Good Luck!
Try telling him a funny, yet light story about how the body works and processes food and then tell him that all living things do this. Let him take his favorite things in the bathroom and you stay in there with him. He may also be constipated and it may hurt him when he tries to go.
When you go out, use the toilet seat cover or toilet paper over the seat.
Good Luck!
S.
R., I am right there with you. I have a 3-year old son who does not want to do it on the potty. Well, at least he trys and I can't keep him on there long enough. I think he's afraid of the sensation of what it is like. So he'll try and then get down and go have the accident in his underwear...UGHHH! No major advice here other than to say, I'm there with you. Hang in there.
