I am 29 and have a 11,10,2 year old from the same marriage I was in my klids have seen enough drama to know that i have done everything in my power to give them everything that they need but yet my son who is 10 doesn't appreciate nothing and wants more and more so I told him if he would be happier to be living with his father that he can go my son said yes and now lives with him. I haven't fone to court yet to give him full custody of him . He his much happier and doing better in school but yet now that he come over to my house he belittles his older brother and just wants to come over to use the things he missed taht he doesn't have with his father. I want to be happy when he comes but i can't why? Is this normal I love my son but I truly donot anticipate his visits.
Do not feel bad, I have a 14yo with similar problem where she doesn't appreciates anything I do for, So I told her to go live with her dad, and she seem happy, but when she comes by I'm
As moms we expect to be their everything forever, we were their everything during pregnancy and we cant imagine that child ever needing or wanting anything we cant provide them and sometimes thats just not the case. I think you are probably a little upset that your son wants to be with and does better with his dad then with you and thats ok just make sure that he knows you are always there for him and that you love him very much and remember that we want the best for our children and if he is doing well with dad then right now thats the best for him.
Hi G. -
I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. That would just break my heart. Since I haven't been in that situation I can't really offer advice that i'm comfortable with. But i can offer you support. Good luck in this trying time and remember to stay strong.
the only thing I could tell you is let him stay with dad for a while. Maybe he'll realize how much he misses his siblings. You can't finght with him, it will only make things worse. good luck.
you don't have to feel bad.you did your best sometimes we have to think about whats best.And it seems to me no matter what you do it's nevergoing to be enough.And if he keeps putting down your other kid tell him you will have to stop him from coming to your house until he shows some respect.I know it sounds hard but trust me it will be for the best.he has to learn its not always going to be what he wants.
Sounds normal, how you're feeling and how he's treating his siblings. Sounds like you have to set some ground rules. And the next time a child of yours isn't acting right, don't let them move out. Make them understand that you are the mother and they have to listen to you FIRST.
Things can't replace love. Don't give him full custody. Middle children often feel like they don't get enough attention. Let him know how special he is to you. Don't let him play you. Children of divorced parents will often manipulate to get things they want.I have seen this with my children as well.
i'm sorry but do i seem to be the only person seeing this..?
divorcesince2004/but seperated since2001 you say you've been apart from him for 5 yrs yet you say you have a 2 yr old by him..I can kinda see why your 1 son is confused.You say you love your son but you don't really want him to visit i'm not sure if i feel worse for you or your kids.
To start, your son may be acting out with his siblings because you "kept" them. Even though he may have wanted the move it doesn't stop him from feeling like you didn't want him. I would suggest to make sure you make him feel loved and tell him that the bahavior will not be tolorated. Your house is as much his home as his fathers. For your feelings, I would guess that it has to do with feeling replaced in a way. We, as mom's like to belive no one else, not even thier fathers, know how to take care of our kids as well as we do. Its hard to except that sometimes they need someone else. It sounds like he really needed his dad right now.
