My son uses me as a passifier, When i Bf him and rock him to sleep.. hes sleeping so well but when i stand up to put him in the crib and take him off of me, he cries and wont stop until he gets me again. he is 7.5 months and he weaned himself off of the passifier nuk at 6 months and i was so happy but starting this week he wants is me there as his passifier. He goes to day care while i work, and hes totally fine there, its just when he sees me or knows im home he wont sleep until im there and hes in my arms, Nursing turns in to just comfort sucking, I have tried waiting till he feel a sleep and tried to take me out and slip in a passifier, but he wakes up and cries. I co sleep with him from when he wakes up in the middle of the night to in the morning, but i make sure he always goes to sleep in his bed time at his bed time. but its been impossible, and getting frustrating. idk what to do, Im a single mom so its not like i could have dad rock him or any thing!
So it took a while to get used to but now hes set into a routine. I make sure we are both home an hour before dinner we play then we eat dinner together, then bath time, then to his bedroom and body lotion and a little playing in his room, read a book or two what ever depends on how tired he is and how soon he needs to go to bed. I do Find that the days that i am away from him the longest the longer he wants to nurse. Before we start rocking i put on this baby lullaby cd that i sing along with that he goes crazy about when i say turn on mr cd.. But i got a feel of what he wants and when im home all day i can put him in the crib while hes still asleep and theres no issues, but other nights i just rock him and let him do his thing while i love up on him. I didnt take him off the passifier, he did it him self when his two bottom teeth came in..
After your son is done nursing, and when he's ready to sleep, try patting his back while he is in his crip, until he goes to sleep. He may not like it at first and you may have to do it for a long time initially because he's use to having you as a human pacifier, but eventually he will get used to the new routine and the gently patting his back will soothe him to sleep.
There's absolutely no reason in the WORLD to wean a six month old off his pacifier. Get him on another one, pronto....possibly even slipping one in his mouth while you are holding him in the nursing position (after he's dozed off). Binky babies are happy babies.
My daughter, is 6 and half and she has never taken a pacifier, just hated it somehow, i went thru the same frustration in the last few months when she would want to sleep using me a pacifier, i adopted the sleeping and nursing method and when she would be fast a sleep i would slowly move away, and then after a week i started rocking her to sleep with a nursery rhyme and move away now she feeds and then leaves me and i hum a nursery rhyme and she is off to sleep and so am i :)
Its just that they need the security of our embrace to make them feel comfortable
all the best.
So let him nurse, your single. Lay down and hook him up, you will fall right to sleep and so will he. He will eventually not need you. I personally would not get him back on a pacifier, sucks trying to find that in the middle of the night after they have lost it.
I say kudos for getting rid of the pacifier! If you are co-sleeping, try nursing him laying down and then pulling away. That is an easier fix. The best thing to do is work toward nursing him until he is ALMOST asleep and then letting him finish falling asleep on his own. I HIGHLY suggest reading The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley for suggestions on how to do that gently - for you AND him.
You are away from him during the day and he simply NEEDS you at night. That is HIS time with you. There is nothing wrong with nursing for comfort at his age. Plus, this will keep up your milk supply so you can nurse him as long as possible. VERY important for a working mom. I would encourage you to view this time of nursing as very valuable to your son's health and your relationship with him. Bring a book while you nurse or even pray or meditate. As a single mom, it's especially important for you!
My daughter never took a pacifier and has always used me instead. As was posted, I nurse her until she is drifting off to sleep and then I put her in her crib. She fusses a little as she gets settled, but then goes to sleep. It took a while to get her there and I had to do a little bit of cry it out despite hating that, but I was at the point where I wasn't being a good mom because I was so fried from being her constant pacifier. I eventually decided that it was in her best interest to learn to get to sleep on her own as she needs to do it eventually and I ended up being a better mom because I wasn't so taxed. Good luck and hang in there.
