My son began going to the kindergarten in September this year. He cried for one week to resist the kindergarten at first, and then gradually adapted to it. However since November, he refused to go there again. No matter what I said to him, he didn’t listen to me , and he even didn’t wear clothes to avoid the kindergarten in the morning. I don’t know why and what I should do?
Who is the parent and who is the child? As a parent myself my child has no say so in the matter of him or her going to school. When they start paying their own way and out of my house then they can do whatever they want. Case Closed!!!!
Send him to school in his pajamas. If he won't get dressed, pack up his "day clothes" and drop him off in pjs, so he has to get changed in the bathroom. It sounds mean, but he'll get the picture that this should not be the tactic of choice. I know other parents who have done it, and it works!
He has to understand that school is not optional. He goes, every day. I'm not sure why he's upset, either, but you have to be firm and take him. Talk to his teacher, too, and keep those lines of communication open. Is he having some challenges at school, or does he play happily and is just preferring to be at home, because he loves Mama and truly, home is easier. Talk with teacher, and stick with a good plan of getting him to school every day.
Have you asked him whether there is something in particular that is bothering him at school? Maybe there's a bully? Even in kindergarten.
Is he not fitting in well with the routine?
Is he younger than most of the kids?
A child can wait a year and start kindergarten the next year.
Good luck.
Combine Shira and Hazel's answer. It would be best to find out if there's a VALID reason why he doesn't want to go. But if it's just an "I don't want to" as opposed to bullying, not being ready, etc. then Hazel's answer is the way to go. Good luck!
Don't let him manipulate you...I would take him up on the challenge. If he is using clothing to not go to kindergarten, I would say, OK fine, then we are going without clothes! and then enthustically say, "let's go!" and act like you are ready to go whether he wants to or not. If he protests, say, well, you've got a choice. Ready for your choice? The choice is you go to day care with clothes, OR you go to day care without clothes! Otherwise, you stay home while mommy goes to work. BUT, I am warning you, it is pretty lonely here when you are home all alone, that is much less fun than kindergarten. Allow him 3 seconds to make the choice, and I am pretty sure that he will choose to go to kindergarten with clothes. Chances are, he will be too afraid to be left "alone" at home, or he will not be bold enough to actually go to kindergarten naked.
Don;t get me wrong -- don't actually leave him at home alone! But, children are not that good at telling when you are just acting. Just pretend that you will actually do it...get out the house and hover by the front door, keeping it ajar so you can see what he is doing, until he comes running after you.
Odd question, are yoiu saying he hasnt been to school since November? pls clarify. Your son is not in charge Mom, you are. Is he a young 5. when is his DOb. He may be immatrue and not ready but htis is for you to decide and not a 5 yr old. Pls keep us posted
Hi, L.:
Why doesn't he like kindergarten?
Just want to know.
D.
I see on your profile that you just posted something else about your son and said he is "near" four years old. Why would he be in Kindergarten if he's not four? Are you a little mixed up or something?
In any case, how exactly can he refuse to go to school? Is he bigger than you?
