My problem is my brother inlaw just told me that my son is being me to his daughter at school. he told me that its at recess that he has been kicking her pushing her down and my niece says he only does it when his other friends tell him too how should i deal with this situation the other boy is my friends son.
Have a family meeting. Get both parents and both children together and discuss the matter. What are all of the causes and what are all of the consequences?
If the best friend is that influential in the beating up of the cousin, invite the best friend and their parents to the meeting as well.
If the children have to publicly own up to their behavior this may nip it in the bud.
I would go to his school, talk with his teacher and get a certain number of recesses taken away. As far as the other boy, he's out of your control, but you can send a message to your son by using consequences. Has he had to apologize to the girl yet?
Talk to your son about letting others tell him what to do and that doing what they say now, just cus-can lead to more dangerous things later in life. He needs to learn to thin kfor himself and do what he KNOWs is right, not what his friends say! Talk to your friend as well and aske her to talk to her son about being a bully. Let your son knw that it is never okay to treat your family like that and he should watch out for his cousin, not hurt her!
I think this is a talk that your husband, his father needs to have with him. First, he needs to be told that boys NEVER hit girls- period... Second, he needs to be told that a "friend" who would tell him to hit/push someone else (especially a girl) is NO friend. Finally, tell him if he continues to hurt his cousin he will not only be in serious trouble at home but he will not be allowed to play with that boy anymore. Just my opinion!
