K.W.
M.,
Sweetie...the only thing that can be done is to be there for your son. I too am of the opinion that his recent behavior changes have been due to the four of you. Not that any of you has done anything wrong. Change is hard for adults, and most people think that it is easy for children, but it really is not. Almost every child I have known needs a routine, and when that routine is messed up, chaos inevitably ensue's. Try to think of when your children were really little, and they missed a nap...it's the same type of behavior, only magnified due to the emotions and confusion. What I would try doing is set aside time with your son and your ex and talk to him about what is going on. Let him know that you both love and support him, but that if things are too crazy right now then you both will be willing to give it a little time. You and your ex will both have to be willing to comprimise on this one though. You might try him only seeing your ex one day a week to begin with, and then taking it from there. The thing to remember is, it is not about how you or your ex may feel...it's about your children. You two will have to be able to communicate at least enough to let each other know what is going on. Other wise it is just going to create all sorts of heart ache for your children. Hope that this helps a little.