My Son Always Wants to Go Bye-bye

This is so similar to what my Son went through a little earlier. He went through that stage around 22 months or so, constantly wanted to go somewhere never wanted to be at home. Now he's 27 months and doesn't want to leave the house, but when we do leave the house he gets upset when we go home. I think when it comes down to it it's just a control issue (isn't everything at this age?) - it also seems to be a phase that they eventually grow out of. Sorry I don't have any tips. Luckily he did get to go bye-bye 3 days a weak to school and I usually planned at least 1 outting when we where home. Good luck!

My son seems to like the idea of bye-bye. He will come to each of us, say bye-bye, and then walk down the hallway. Maybe you can redirect your son. Can he go bye-bye to his room, or to a playhouse?

Yes, my two year old son does this too. Even when we get somewhere, he wants to go somewhere else. Part of it is that he likes car rides. Part of it is that he wants to be in control all the time. We go somewhere every day. If his request to go bye bye isn't at a good time, I try to give him other choices that he will like, such as "play with kids" "play with toys" "dance" ... Sometimes it works.

My daughter does this now. Sometimes I have to physically put her in the house. Redirection does not work. Usually she will eventually get distracted by something else and settle down. it is not always bye-bye but just outside.

My three year old does the SAME thing. He's been known to throw himself on the floor and have a total melt-down. I'm hoping when he starts pre-school in two weeks this will all change.

There have been days we just get in the car and go for a ride. I think it's a waste of gas but I get my sanity back.

My almost two year old is constantly bringing me his shoes or mine and saying, "Shoes. Shoes? Let's GO!"
Argh.

My daughter just turned 3 and she's been like this just about her whole life. She will bug us every day to go somewhere fun or play outside and sometimes it is just not possible. I feel bad having to say no sometimes but that's life and she's gotta learn that.

She loves playing outside and going for walks, especially if we take our dogs with us. They are both pugs and one is small for the breed and my daughter loves to hold her leash and "walk" her. She loves going to the playground and the water park in our town. There are days she wakes up at 7 am and wants to go play outside right away. Sometimes when we are coming back from somewhere and she's tired, she'll start asking to go to all these places and get all whiny when I have to tell her no. It gets ridiculous sometimes, because I've already told her what the plan is ("we will go to the library and then the store and then it will be time to go home") and she will still ask, "We go beach?" No. "We go zoo?" No. "We go see baseball game?" No! I try to sometimes say it differently so it's not like I am saying no all the time, as in "Wow, that does sound like fun!" or "Another day we can do that." but there are days it's just crazy.

Now that she is 3, I am thinking of signing her up for more things like gymnastics, swimming, etc. because she is just so active. Putting things in perspective, I would rather have a kid that likes to go places and is into having an "adventure" then one that you can't seem to drag off the couch, but I also know how exhausting that can be. If you can get into a routine of taking him to a playground (outside or in), a park, a library, and a few other places like that, it might be enough to satisfy him. I have friends that have kids the same age and my daughter loves "play dates" with them when we can coordinate our schedules - perhaps that can be an option for you. Even if it can't be every day, hopefully it will enough to keep him happy most of the time. There are days that I could spend more time cleaning the house, organizing, etc. but if it really isn't essentially and can wait another day, I will make it a point to go somewhere fun with my daughter instead. Then hopefully she will have memories of her mama having fun with her and spending quality time together. Or as my mom would say, "They are only little for a little while."

My kids always want to leave to. My 19 month old is always getting her shoes. My 5 year old says our house is boring (she forgets that she owns a gazillion toys that she has managed to place throughout the house for her convenience) and always wants to go someplace else. However, when we get someplace else she's complaining about when are we going to leave or I want to go home. She doesn't complain when we end up someplace like Chucky Cheese though. She's content right where she is.

My conclusion is: She doesn't know how to deal with downtime, and has to realize that it's not all fun and games 24/7. When she gets home from a birthday party for example she is upset because she wants to keep having more fun. I tell her the party can't last forever. She gets upset and asks why. Some kids just need constant stimulation or else they get bored. I'm trying to teach my daughter how to entertain herself. For about an hour a day she has quiet time in her room. She usually colors or draws, plays with her doll house. . . I want her to find a way to be content without the TV, friends over or just a hyped up atmosphere.

Quiet time may be kinda hard at 2 1/2, but maybe as he gets older you can work it in. My 19 month old doesn't respond well to mom imposed quiet time lol. So when she wanders off by herself and finds something safe to fidget with I leave her alone and call that her quiet time.

Hang in there!!!

Oh yeah!!!! I remember those days!!! Everyday, my toddler needed to get out of the house! We went for a walk, we'd go around and visit a neighbor or two, we'd walk or drive to the grocery store, whatever, we were out everyday!

Then we moved just before summer to Arizona, where the nearest grocery store was a 20+ minutes drive, where we didnt know anyone and it was just too dang hot to walk!! That was a really rough move on all of us!

I'm not sure what I can tell you that will help, but you're not alone! It did change for us after we moved here in that he now would rather stay home than go out (he's 8yo now) I suspect it has more to do with his hearing loss that occurred around then rather than the move, although I'll always wonder....

Maybe.. set some kind of a routine, where you are out (errands, a walk, playground, whatever) and get home before his naptime, so he knows (oh he'll fight it big time at first and probably constantly test to see if it'll change) that everyday, after we've been bye bye to (a walk or the playground for example) then we get home and have lunch then we have a little bit of playtime then it's naptime. then we can go outside in the backyard or for a short walk again, then mom cooks dinner.... Just a suggestion? I honestly dont remember what I did /didn't do, what worked, and how I dealt with it.

my daughter is only 14 months and she has the same tantrums with going outside. We can be outside ALL DAY LONG and at bedtime she still wants to go outside and refuses to go to bed. Maybe try to tell him that after he takes his nap we can go "bye bye" and then take him for a walk or a bike ride or something that is close by. I know that it is hard to always go somewhere so maybe even try am imaginary bye bye. Maybe while he is sleeping set up something like a store or someplace that he likes to go and when he wakes up "drive" him from his room to this place and play pretend. I know this is a great age to introduce pretend play. Give it a try and let me know what happened.

Yup! Us too. He will either say "shoes, shoes, shoes" or "side, side, side" a million times.

And, he gets soooo mad when I take his shoes off when we come inside. Because he knows that means that we are staying inside.

Sometimes, he starts crying hysterically when we pull into our road because he doesn't want to go home!

Fun stuff :-)