My Rival

Ha! My husband has a "bro friend" too.. They talk on the phone.. It was worse when the guy first broke up with his girlfriend, but it has tapered off. They sometimes remind me of teenage girls. This guys also wanted my husband to spend more time with him..

Here is the deal.. Invite Bro friend over for a meal with the family every once in a while.

My husband and his friend started building furniture.. It was great work.. They even earned some extra bucks..

I made a deal with my husband.. He had to schedule these activities with me, so I could make other plans on those days.. I tried to include this friend at least once every 2 weeks.

My husband also knows if I have dinner made and we eat and husband is not here.. The leftovers are in the fridge. I do not pout about it, I go on with my own activities.

Schedule sex. Let your husband know when you want it and again if he is not there.. you may need to either take care of yourself or he is not going to get it the next time he wants it..

This is the age men can be in 'Men o pause" and things change for them.. They realize they cannot always do what they used to be able to do.. their physical conditions need medical attention instead of being able to ignore it.. Work becomes old hat or becomes more stressful, because younger people are being hire and for less money..

They are searching for what youth they have left.. Hanging ourt with his buddy is something different and feels like his youth.

They want to feel needed. His friend need him.. You do not "need him" because you handle everything.. You are so independent..

Start off your conversations with , "I really need your help." Or "I miss you so much..." He still wants to be your hero and to feel needed. It sounds silly, but it makes a huge difference..

Find out solutions to the diabetes situation.. how can he have sex? When? Then surprise him by jumping in the shower.. Waking up a little earlier in the morning. Pick him up for lunch if possible..

Andy yes, my husbands friend has been dating and then found a steady, but he still calls to ask my husband for advice and support. See HE needs my husband..

He does need guy time, but a couple times a month, not every week several times. More important than guy time is FAMILY TIME, and it sounds like he needs to reset his priorities and look at what is really important to him.

Well 6 months of a clingy Buddy, is a bit irritating huh?
Now they have a habit of hanging out a lot.
Then there is you and your kids.

No matter what, sure guy time is fine. But is has to be within the needs, of a Man's own family and Wife and kids.
He's going out 3 times a week now.
DO YOU DO THAT????

On your calendar, tell your husband YOU have plans.
Then go out, too. Even if is just by yourself to do whatever or hang out at a Starbucks.

I mean, everyone, married or not, can go out. BUT it has to incorporate the needs of the Spouse and household and kids, too.

I think your Husband, has to ration... his outings.
And his friend is a GROWN man, he can handle himself.