I think you should call your mom and tell her how utterly selfish she is to forget your son's birthday! It's a big deal to you and how could she? Maybe after you chew her out and hang up on her you'll feel better for telling her off and letting her know what a horrible mother and grandma she is. And maybe you'll create enough hurt and anger between you and her that you don't speak for years. You'll really show her, won't you! ..........
Or maybe you should give her the benefit of the doubt and realize that when you're pointing a finger at her, 3 fingers are pointing right back at you. We all make mistakes, get busy, forget, and sometimes we keep telling ourselves that we need to get that package in the mail and we don't, or we need to call little Johnny today and we get sidetracked. Yikes! I hope my daughters give me just a little grace when I disappoint them - and I will. I'm only human. I hope they know that I love them and my grandchildren and that I'm not perfect. So...if your mom's birthday is still coming up, bless her the way you would if she hadn't forgotten this birthday. When she realizes she forgot, forgive her and you will not regret it.
You get to choose. Take offense or give grace. I hope you give grace - for your sake, for your mom's sake, and for your children's sake. I also hope your children haven't been hearing you speak badly about their grandma. If they have, when you become a grandma, you have taught your kids that it will be OK to talk badly about you to your grandchildren when you disappoint them.
Best wishes to you and your family!
~P. G.
Owner, Portland Preschool Directory
Author, Mrs. G.'s Kindergarten
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