My Manager

Keep yourself super busy, take the initiative in regards to getting things done. If your manager speaks poorly about you to the supervisor, then ask the supervisor to check in frequently to see how things are running and getting done. The supervisor will be able to see first hand if the manager is not doing her job. If you prove you are the person to get things done then you may soon find yourself moving up to manager. Keep your attitude light and cheerful even if your manager is being a jerk or being lazy. Don't let her pull you down to her level. Good luck, keep your head held high, and do your job well and with pride.

When there is a disagreement about something, you should be able to discuss it with someone (your manager) in a professional way and get the situation resolved. When you go over your manager's head to the supervisor, you have not given her (the mgr) a chance to resolve the issue. I bet the supervisor is telling her that she and you need to talk about it and resolve the issues. And your manager is giving you that choice. You are declining to discuss the problems with her and going over her head -- not a great way to have a friendly working relationship with your boss. If you and your manager can not resolve an issue together, then going to the supervisor might be appropriate.
Ok, in talking to the supervisor--I think you might ask her to see if you could transfer to a different elementary school because the environment is just that bad. I would also start documenting a list of things that "slip" -with the date and time and circumstances and what your response was and what the mgr's response was and bringing that to her attention,
In all probability, your lunchroom manager probably has never gotten much training in managing other people. Good luck!

I've been having bad days at work too.
However, it's not a boss, or a manager, it's a coworker.
She has the worst attitude I have ever seen.
She asked to be cut back to 20 hours a week. Fine. Thinking that would make her happy.
Nope.
She stomped in to work today and wouldn't talk to anyone, wouldn't look at anyone and wouldn't acknowledge anyone. When she was asked to do something, she ignored it.
If she doesn't get canned, I'm leaving. I'm stuck with her in the front office and people coming in see her just sitting there ignoring everyone.
I'm over it.
I don't know why she even shows up.

Enough of my venting.

My grandmother was a lunch lady for about 40 years. My grandfather died when her 4 kids were teenagers and that's the job she took and loved.

She was very pretty, even into her 90's.
So.....this might seem off, but someone asked earlier today about something that made us laugh.
I saw the perfect epitomy of a "lunch lady", hair net and all, driving a green station wagon that I swear was from the 60's.
She looked just like Chris Farley in the following Saturday Night Live sketch.

I was hoping to give you something to lift your spirits until you can talk to your supervisor on Monday.
I in no way infer that you are the same "lunch lady" type.

Best wishes.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0HhV2SoJThM&feature=re...

I would certainly document everything, as well as the accusations made against you. And if you confront your manager, then you are in threat of insubordination. So really, it is better you take it up with your supervisor.

In the meantime, sometimes it's best to ignore the problem and stay as far removed and hard working and professional as possible. If she is not working during the hour, than I would invite the supervisor to make a surprise visit to see for herself. Also, eating while preparing or serving food is a huge no-no, aren't there rules about that sort of thing?

When ever you are having problems with a supervisor or a coworker you should always talk to "them" first to see if it's something that can be worked out. If that doesnt work or makes things worse that's when you ask your boss's boss if you can have a meeting with the THREE of you so you can air it out.
Work can be a crazy environment. We all have our own duties to perform that have been lined out for us. As long as you are doing flawless job there shouldnt be time to worry about what others are doing AND you can rest assured that things are okay. Jobs are not for making friends or socializing, that's why they call it work. It's great when employees can be comrades at the same time, but that's generally a rare occurrence.
Do your job and ignore the highschool attitude of the other women you work with.