Anyone with any children under 3 gets a free pass on everything in my world. It's so hard with little ones about. They suck everything out of you.
Now that your little one is going to be 3, it's time to start thinking about yourself. This doesn't mean getting your hair or face done in my world (I don't wear make-up). This means figuring out what YOU NEED. This may very well mean getting dolled up for hubby. It may also mean reading a good book or going to the gym. You know what did it for me? I was nursing my third child, sitting on the couch, and I decided it was time to find myself again. I went online and spent $500 on skirts. I have always worn skirts. I love skirts. I hadn't spend any money on clothes in 10 years, and I realized I would feel more like myself after I found some skirts that make me feel awesome. At that point I owned none that were wearable. I had awful maternity clothes and jeans. I HATE JEANS. So I went shopping. I ended up keeping about $400 worth. I bought a variety of skirts, but mostly of the athletic, super comfortable, able to keep up with climbing children while feeling like a lady kind. It did absolute wonders for my spirit. I then started a monthly book club, and I decided to spend time reading and meditating every day. It changed my world. Once I started to feel better, I then was able to care for hubby. If what your hubby said was a once thing, ignore it. Your comments about strippers was asking for it.
My point, what do you need? Do you feel good about yourself? if not, what would make you feel better? I don't wear make-up. I don't get dressed up. I prefer hair cuts where I can just brush and air dry. I'm natural (with lots of gray to prove it!) But, I feel good. I have lots of meaningful relationships. I spend time doing the things I love (hiking, reading, chatting with friends). Hubby thinks I'm sexy. I feel sexy. What makes your heart sing? Do more of that. Also, I highly recommend meditation (5 minutes a day) and exercise (at least 90 minutes a week) --it does wonders for your overall well-being.
I'm really sorry you guys had a tough day. They happen. But those arguments can be productive. He may be telling you he cares and is concerned you stay home and neglect yourself. He may not know how to say it kindly (Most) men are clueless. Who knows? But why are you home all day? Just because you stay home, you don't have to stay home! Join a play group. Go hiking, go somewhere. LIVE. You'll feel better and have more to give. If you take care of yourself, you can take much better care of everyone else. It's true. So, Mom of 1, what gets you excited?