R.D.
Dear S.,
My heart went out to you when I read your post this morning. I have been married for 31 years. My children are 29,25,14 and 11. I have definitely walked in your shoes. First of all, being a mom is the most important job in the world. Your husband should just stay home a few days without you there, to see just how important it is. Believe me, you blink and they are already 29...and 25! Second of all, no matter how many years we've been married, or the number of children....the laundry is ALWAYS there. Laundry is never-ending. Laundry is not as important as raising wonderful children. But many years ago, when my "big kids" were little, I decided to make Monday laundry day. I did ALL the laundry on Monday. That way, you feel better the rest of the week, a little more organized. I still do laundry on Monday's. I don't profess to be an expert housekeeper, but again when the kids were small, I cleaned 1 room a day. When it was finished, I moved to another room the next day. This might help with your husband's support. I also suggest a date night with your husband to help you re-connect. It sounds like your 5 year old might soon be entering school soon, this will definitely help with the 'craziness' you are feeling. Just spending time with your 15 month old, will feel like a vacation. I also suggest you look into a play group with the 15 month old. This connects you with other young Moms, going thru the exact things you are experiencing. I realize transportation might pose a problem, but girlfriends help other girlfriends, right! Hang in there! You are blessed to be able to stay at home with your girls, always know that. Without a good relationship with your "grown" children, you will be lost. And when that time comes....Guess what? The Laundry and dust bunnies will still be there, but your children will not be. I will be thinking of you!
R. D