My Husband - Tampa,FL

I am so very sorry for you. I would suggest looking up blogs or websites for other women or men going through the same thing.

Scream and cry...there is no right or wrong way to react.

I'm so very sorry about your loss.
I can't even imagine the pain & loss you are feeling.
Do you think you could find a nearby grief support group?
It's OK to cry. Or scream. Or feel angry. That's normal.

There are 5 stages of grief:
* Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
* Anger (why is this happening to me?)
* Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
* Depression (I don't care anymore)
* Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

You'll need to get through all of these stages, O. at a time, however long it takes, to complete your grieving process.

Check with the hospital, the funeral home, the hospice or the social worker for a list of grief support groups near you. Sometimes talking to others who have been there helps a lot.
Again, I'm so sorry...

I am so sorry for your loss! I also lost my husband. It has been 6 months now. You must let youirself go through each emotion as it comes. Oneand Done (D. from Pittsburgh) outlined the phases. They are correct but they don't always come in the exact order. If you feel sad today, be sad. If you are mad be mad. Just don't try to stuff the feelings aside or you will blow up! And just because you knew that he was not well doesn't make it any easier to deal with him actually being gone. There was always hope, now you feel like you have none.
BUT you do still have hope. You have your beautiful baby that still needs you. Life is not over. It keeps going. It is how you handle this time that will determine your future. God made this time. He made the time for you to meet your husband. He made that special. He made you love each other. Do not think that was a waste. Be thankful. Be thankful for the time you did have with him. Be thankful that you got a chance to love somebody. Be thankful for everything. Remember God wants you to understand heartache as much as he wants to you to understand happiness. You cannot appreciate one without the other.
Good luck Girl! I will be praying for you! You will be ok again. You will smile, you will laugh. It takes time, but it will happen again.
Blessings!
D.

I'm so sorry. Don't feel guilty if you are relieved that his suffering is finally over - that's absolutely understandable and normal. Your husband's doctor can recommend a support group in your area where you'll meet people who know exactly what you are going through. Strength to you in the tough days ahead. ~ D.

Start a scrap book of his pics and memories. Take a drive to a place you all use to frequent, talk to some of his close friends and family to reminesce, look at old tv shows or dvds that the two of you liked, listen to music that you both enjoyed, start a journal of your daily thoughts. Good luck. R.

You can talk to me if you like. Private message me if you want to communicate in private.

It helps to talk it out, yell scream or what ever else you need to do but know this you are not alone and God loves you and so do I.

Oh N., I am so very sorry about your husband.

I hope you will keep reaching out to us. I hope you will PM any of us at any time. PM me any time you need to talk, for any reason.

Sending you Great Strength.

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I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I feel terrible for you and can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. You are in my prayers.

Nicole:

I'm very sorry for your loss. This must be a very hard time. Especially now that it is sinking in.

Start a journal...go through and make a scrapbook for your son so he will know his dad through the book. Ask people (friends and family) to write a story about him and maybe include a picture so that his memory will live on.

I would strongly suggest you find a grief counselor. I believe you said your husband had cancer - see if the hospital that he was treated at has a cancer support group. They should also be able to refer you to a therapist as well to help you with your grief. There are usually 5 stages of grief and everyone goes through that grief differently.

Get into a routine. Get out of the house. Meet people - friends and family - do NOT stay alone.

If you go to church - talk to your pastor, priest, rabbi - they can help you deal with your grief as well.

Again, I am truly sorry for your loss.

Hugs to you!

Oh, I am so, so sorry. My deepest condolences to you. One support group (in addition to Mamapedia, not instead of it!) you might want to look at is Youngwidow.org. Please take care and know that so, so many people's thoughts, hopes, and prayers are with you.

I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you.

I am so sorry for your loss!!!! I know when we lost my dad it took a while to fully sink in! From the sounds of it you have been go through a lot for the last few years and that has probably drained you and you don't really know how to feel or be with him not there. Find someone you can talk to. If you belong to a church find out if they have a widows group women that know what you have gone through. My dad had a long battle with cancer and it was hard on the entire family but mostly my mom and I since we where his rocks and care takers. Just know you are not alone and I will keep you in my prayers!!!

God Bless!

please know that you are in our thoughts & prayers. I think for many of us, you are living our worst fears & that breaks my heart for you. { hugs to you}

when my daughter died, I contacted the Compassionate Friends organization. They were very helpful to me. Your local hospital should also have a grief counseling group. Please contact one of these!

& as always, all of us are here for you.....

I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know what I would do or how I would handle it if it were me.

You are taking the right steps, though - reaching out! Keep reaching out and we will all be here for you. Let yourself go through all the steps of grieving and know that you are loved by all here on MP!

Hugs this has been a long year for you...Please go to

Griefshare.org

and find a local group...so that you can talk and listen to others! I started a group a year ago after the loss of a loved one and it has helped greatly!

The best thing you can do for you and your son is grieve...and do it at a pace that works for you.

Hugs

N.,
I am so very sorry to hear about your husband.
I also recommend that you seek grief counseling. Was your husband in hospice care? If so, they will still be there for you.
I will pray for you. Please let us know how you are doing.
Victoria

i am soo sorry for your loss. i to lost a husband at a very young age. He was in the navy. We got married when i was 18 and he passed when i was 19. It was the hardest point in my life. I went wild and didnt know how to handle everyday life. I want you to know that you can get through this.

What i found that helped me ALOT was talking about him. Telling stories. Listening to music that we liked. Doing things that we liked. and feeling the emotions.

Dont turn to drugs or alcohol. its what i did at first, and with the grief i almost lost myself. You need to feel! Once the numbness passes and you start to feel again, dont be scared. Feel your emotions. Talk to people. Ask for help. Remember him! Love him! and stay strong. for yourself and your son. If you need a person to talk to, you can contact me.

Good luck! God Bless!

Talk to your medical dr, they will know resources for you. Or a local church.

Please call your primary doctor and ask for a referral to a grief counselor. I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It will be hard, but you can get through this. Please find a grief counselor that can help you navigate through all the emotions you will need to address. My friend loss his 34-year-old wife and found it very helpful to talk to a counselor. my prayers are with you and your family.