My Fiance Still Isnt Home????

wake up and smell the coffee whats he doing and get the phone back with 2 kids you need a phone Let him explain then move on!

Either he is having an affair or is a real jerk. Be glad you have not married him. No responsible father should be out of touch like that. This is not normal behavior. Trust me I have been there.

Jordan, you need to get out and get out now. This is going on and you think he may have hit your daughter. Please be strong. You will be soooo much better in the end. I live in Jackson. If you need some one to talk to- I can be that person. but you have to do something. This is not healthy and its not safe. Your children deserve more than this and so do you.

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From your other posts it sounds like it's a blessing that he's not home! Get yourself together he is NOT worth crying for.

Your new post talks about your child being abused---pack and get to a family member who you trust to help you get away from this guy. HE IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!!!

i havent read your whole story but from some of the comments below i can say to you that a domestic violence shelter is a great place for resources for you and your kids and to get your confidence back. i have a relative going through something similar and has found a great support system in hers.

He should not be your Finance.
DO NOT MARRY HIM.

On your own and without him knowing... make plans for your independence... save money on the side, have your own bank account if you do not have one, tell your family or close friends... and make PLANS for your own life and the children.
Do you have a job?
Call shelters for help.
Do anything you can... to help yourself... help your children. You MUST protect them and yourself.

If you need to, call the Police. File a report. DOCUMENT everything... call your friends or family AND have them come over.
Go to a neighbor's house... and stay there or bring your children there... you NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS relationship and of the house.

Do you have any other phone?
Go next door. Use their phone. Tell them it is an emergency.

DO NOT STAY WITH HIM.

I'm sorry you are feeling like this, its a terrible feelilng to be crying hysterically over any situation but I have to agree...what your fiance is doing is not right and not something a fiance should be doing. When you stop crying hysterically, which by the time you read this, I'm sure you will have, stand up tall and take control of yourself and your children...NO MAN or PERSON should ever make YOU feel this way. He is disrespectful and not being a good fiance, person, FATHER! If he doesn't come home, its because he doesn't want to, so don't make it harder on yourself, if t his is what he wants then give it to him and more importanlty FREE YOURSELF. This is only headed down a path that is not going to have a good outcome and once you are married it will be EVEN harder to go! Do you have friends or family that you can go to?

He took your phone and left you without any way to get help if there were an emergency? He sounds like a tool. Can you change the locks?

I don't like saying it but it's true, When men don't come home, it's because they don't want to come home. You have to ask yourself is he really worth all the strife, the crying, the instability, is he worth the meanness you endure, the worry, the confusion, the arguing, the uneasiness? What's your life worth to you? You have an attachment to him that you call love and it's hard to break even in an abusive situation, that's why so many women stay in them. You think it's going to change, he's going to change. He's not! Imagine your little girl as a adult now and imagine her being abused and mistreated by a man who she thinks she loves and she thinks he loves her and so she won't leave him. But to you it's clear cut case that he's no good for her. What would you say to her, how would you feel? How would you get her out of the situation, how would you get her to see how much she's hurting herself and that life can go no where good as long as she's with him? It would hurt you to see her hurting because of a man like this. It would break your heart. But this is what you are in the process of creating for her if you don't get a clear head about your life and this man now. I write this because you posted earlier about him hurting your daughter. Well, where do you think it will go from here? If you marry him, then what will he do, will he have license to do even more damage? This kind of man always thinks he does. Look at this as a blessing in disguise and make good use of it by getting out of the situation NOW before it really gets ugly. Make a decision, don't let a man get in the way of what's best for you and your children. Don't wait! ~~But most women in this kind of situation and much worse do wait no matter how many other women tell them to leave. They think he'll change or they don't have the money or a place to stay or whatever, the excuses go on and on. If you'd just see clearly, you would make the decision to get out and nothing would stop you. Where There's a Will, There's a Way. Make it happen. My sister went through the same for years and years and I begged and tried and tried to get her to see the light. Once she actually did get away, she was so sorry for wasting so many years with a man that did nothing but play games and be abusive. And she realized how much she had let him own her and control her life in one form or another, even when she didn't think he was, actually he was. She was allowing him to control what she thought, felt and did. ~Think about it, he is showing you he can't be trusted. Why would you want a man you can't trust? If he wanted a family and wife he'd be home right now and most every night, because he would want to be with the people he loves. You wouldn't have to fret and wonder where he is and what he's doing. For God sake Let him Go. This is not meant to be harsh, although it may sound so. I'm thinking of you as a person and your children who deserve someone in their life that loves them and their Mother. And I can see what kind of man he is, and baby he's not a friend. He may be a lover, but certainly not a beloved and certainly not a mate. (sex can get us in all kinds of hot water and sure takes hold of us doesn't it.) Better yourself and your children and find someone with a heart and a head on his shoulders. snap out of it. I truly hope for the best for you and your children, I know they want love and acceptance, as we all do. Remember they're angels sent from above given to you as gifts, it only lasts such a short time. Time waits for no one.
p.s. I don't mean to sound harsh and I know you think it's love and I know what you do is your decision (obviously), but this is meant with regard to your well being. I can see into this and this is not just a phase for him, this is a very troubled man but a man that believes he has no trouble inside of him. Don't waste any more precious time. Let go of the part of you that holds on to this, to him. If you actually read this all the way through please know I do send you prayers for clarity, strength and for openness to God's way for you and your children, whatever that may be for you. Hold them close.

Men are stupid... A majority of the time when they do things that we think are stupid, they don't even realize how stupid whatever they had been doing was. Try to calm down

It's okay, be strong. Be strong for those kids. If you stay calm, and know that God is in charge, you have the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, and courage to change the things that we can (we we are only responsible for changing ourselves.)) and the wisdom to know the difference.. Whatever happens, know that from now on, you stay focused on your own goals, do not get obsessed wasting your energy over the pain he causes, focus it on taking care of you, and your kids. XO

So sorry, when he does finally get home you need to have a conversation. Tell him as calmly as you can that what he has been doing is just flat out not cool. Try and make him see it from your perspective, he wouldnt like it if you did this to him. With two little ones at home you can not be left without a phone.
Just try to breathe and calm down as much as you can. I know this is easier said than done.

Dear Jordan, I don't have and answer for you but I will pray that he comes home.... and hope he has a good explanation.... Grandma Mary

We really need a little more info... what happened two weeks ago? First, stop crying.. it doesn't help anything, spend that energy working out a plan to get through this situation. Second, go get a phone or get one hooked up at home, with small kids you need one. Third,come up with a plan.....call his work and verify he is working the hours he says he is.... check out his friends he says he staying with...have ammunition when you confront him about all of this. Be strong.

Call and talk to someone as soon as you can at your local domestic violence safe house/shelter. Sometimes saying things out loud makes us figure out for ourselves what we really want and need to do. I was a volunteer at our local shelter, I got there because I got out of my violent and abusive marraige. It was very hard to get away and stay away, it is really easy for other people that have not been in this situation to tell you to just leave which in some cases can be worse then staying until you have a plan. They will help you but you do have to help your self also. If he makes you cry now he will only make you cry if you marry him. You need to think about your kids and what you want for them is this they type of life you want them to have? If you need to talk please privat message me. I know what you are going through I have been there. I am now married to a wonderful, kind, loving man that treats me like a queen it took me a while to get out and stay out and find a NICE man but I did. You can find someone to treat you the way you deserve. Good Luck.