My Dd Crys for Daddy!

I used to sit my 2.5 year old on my belly when I was pregnant. WE sang songs to the baby.
Be thankful If Daddy is a strong influence in her life she is less likely to have self confidence issues when she is a teenager.
My husband is usually deployed but when he is around I welcome the chance to let the girls just be Daddy;s girls. They need it desparately and if your husband is a good dad they are so much better off.
WHen they are 13 and some dumb boy breaks up with them they will come crying to you, or when they break their fingernauil before prom or have cramps so bad they can't think.
Pretty soon only mommy will do and she will shut him out, although mine declared me the enemy when I told them at 3 and 5 that Daddy was already married to ME!!
Good luck with number 2.

Yep. Totally normal especially since another one is due any day and you basically have no lap to cuddle on. Mine is 3 1/2 and is still in the daddy only phase, except for potty breaks (gee thanks!).
Congrats on the new baby too!
M.

Good morning. Sounds like you've pregnant with another girl? Children go through this when a new baby is on the way. It is not uncommon. Let dad enjoy the company for a while. Believe me you'll have plenty of mother/daughter time. This is also a stress time for you and your daughter even so young can since that. Just relax and know daddy can take care of her needs as well.

I think most kids have a preference for mom or dad at some point in their life. You are probably right - she's wanting Daddy more now because she knows you are unavailable as you used to be (because of your bigger belly). Kids are smarter than you think. Maybe you are more tired than you used to be and she can sense that but knows Daddy is acting the same.

Does she see you more than him? Do you stay home with her or take/pick her up from daycare? That could affect it too.

I would not worry about it (or the whining) - that is common and my 2.5 year old got it BAD when she turned 2. She still has it but I tell her I can't understand her when she's whining. If she's throwing a tantrum (she tends to be dramatic at times and has perfected the quivering lip!!), I tell her to take a deep breath and we do it together to get her to stop. If she's playing, watching cartoons, having a snack, etc and throws a fit, I remove her from the situation (or the toy/cartoon/etc) gets taken away until she calms down.

Don't make an issue of her preference. In fact, take the time to put your feet up, take a bath, nap, etc because as soon as that baby is here, she'll want you to be holding her all the time, especially when you are holding the baby!

my daughter did the same thing when i was pregnant (mine are 23 months apart). While my son at almost 2 is definitely a mommy's boy my daughter seems to switch back and forth. I would say just go with it and don't stress. She's still being loving and you will hopefully have more time at first to devote to the new baby!

I was surprised that you ended your story with she is not mean...yet. Why do you expect her to become mean.? We have to realize that we can self prophesy things on our families. It sound like you have a loving family; don't look for her to change her demeanor. What some may called the norm to expect negative things you don't have to expect it for your family. I am so happy for you that your husband is so active in the caring for your daughter. So many fathers don't know how or don't think they shoud be that involved. Appreciate the love your husband can give her. She knows you are there. She may even sense the arrival of the new one and is instinctly going to dad. Plus it is alright if she is daddy's little girl. Believe me there is no one who takes your place in her mind and heart. How you handle this will set the tone for your relationship. If she feels there is a struggle with allowing her to go to dad it can subconsciously begin something later when the normal mother daughter power struggle era begins as a preteen and teen. And how you handle this and other dad related matters will minimize or magnify this passage into womanhood in 12+ years. Welcome the relationship she has with dad, maybe even ask her if she wants dad to hold her etc. Then she will see that you and dad are one in meeting her needs. An Essential Practical Guide to Family Living
addresses many of the most common issues in family living. It can be ordered at www.destroyingyokes.com About having her say the word before giving her things: I think is good as long as it is in moderation- using your judgement. Most babies don't begin talking alot before 2, and as a girl she will soon be talking so much you will wonder if nap and bedtimes are the only times she will be quiet. I had to do that with my 1st son. He would open the frig and point and I would say want do you want and when he pointed I would say the word and he would have to try before I gave it to him and then praised him. Soon it wasn't long before he would say "juice" But he had a slight speech problem that didnot take long to fix. So be mindful of that too. One thing in the book I mentioned is that the author writes that often times parents feel their other children are so much older than they are when they bring home the new baby. She will still be a baby herself when you bring home the new baby so don't expect too much from her and let her finish her toddler years as a baby too,and not see her as a preschooler. The author points out that our children are learners and we should take every opportunity to teach them even when the behavior is unacceptable,don't just scold but teach.