My Daughter Talks to Much in Class

I have a second grader also who talk to much. He is one of those kids that is hyper. I have been told he is a hyper kid but not ADD I did watch his suger intake and that seemed to get the talking down a little.

Just to let you know you are not the only one out there that has gone through this at some point in life. I have a 12, going on 13 year old daughter that, that was her teachers major complaint all through school from Kindergarton on up to this past year. I just told them that I am not sure what they want me to do because she talks just as much at home and I can't get her to stop. They just lived with it. As has been mentioned before, maybe she is just bored. Not sure what kind of grades your child gets but mine has always been an honor student and we have come to the conclusion that she was just bored. She has to have music on at home to do her homework otherwise her imagination runs away with her. I have been told from her teachers this year that she pays attention in class and doesn't hardly talk at all unless to answer a question or ask one. So the only thing that I can tell you on this one is that she will grow out of it. In the meantime, don't punish her for something that didn't happen in front of you. She can't help it.

I. F,
My names T. and I'm 27 year old mother of one with one due any day now.
I feel your pain my daughter is only 3 and that's her biggest problem is she talks too much, that's what I was told anyway by her teacher as well, I just recently took her out of daycare to stay at home full time, and the teacher is right she does talk too much, but I think that is a sign of a really smart kid! If that's the worst thing they can say about your kid that she talks too much, I wouldn't worry, the school will find a way to face this issue, that's part of their job, hey maybe you have a future politician on your hands. Who knows but I love that my daughter can speak her opinion so well and she is not afraid to talk.
Sorry if this was no help to ya but just to let ya know I have a chatter box too!! Don't take it as an insult, take it as a compliment

As a teacher in Lee County, I can understand this problem. I ALSO think that teachers NEED to give kids a chance to talk and to be kids! There is SOOOOOOO much pressure on them with testing, and everything else! I would ask if the teacher, you, and your daughter can meet and talk about times that it would be OK for her to talk. Maybe she needs that outlet - I did! I also always allowed my students "talk time" after every major subject. Hope this helps!
R.

Hi I. -

You said it yourself, it's only been a month into school so your daughter still has some adjusting to do. Think back when you were in school, especially elementary, where the combination of a new grade, a new class, and new friends was almost too much to soak in. This is probably what your daugther is feeling right now.

Obviously, this behavior cannot continue, however, I'm confident that with her teacher's constant repetitive direction and your consistent reinforcement at home, she will get in the groove of what's expected of her in class. Ask her teacher specifically what you can do at home to reinforce the importance of classroom rules. Working with her teacher as a team is the best offense in these situations.

Not discounting the fact that your child may be exceptionally bright (as one mom suggested), being bright does not negate the need to follow classroom rules. Even if your child is a prodigy, to be a functioning and successful adult in society, she will eventually have to learn how to follow rules. Again, I think your daughter's chatting-out-of-turn is just a very temporary phase that will go away with time, patience, and constant reinforcement from you and her teacher.

Blessings to you and yours.

I had the same problem with my first grader. I tried all the same things you tried. After talking to her doctor about it, among other things, he diagnosed her with ADHD, which I never really believed there really was such a thing until I experienced it first hand. The doctor said it was an impulse control issue. She honestly couldn't help it, that's why none of the punishments or rewards ever worked. If something poped into her mind, she said, without forthought that it was a "no talking" time. Make note if she seems to be impulsive with other things (acting or speaking without thinking beforehand), and you might want to have a talk with your pediatrician. My daughter is on medication now; she is still her out-going, bubbly, dramatic self, but now she has the ability to control her actions and words.

Does she finish all her work? It may be that she needs more challenge. My nephew has always been like that. He finishes his work and then ends up getting in trouble for talking or what appears to be goofing around. He gets bored and then doesn't want to do the work because he knows it already.

It may be that she needs to be placed in an exceptional or honors class or skipped to a higher grade.

I have a third grade daughter who also get in trouble on a daily bass for talking too much in class. I have talked to her,taken away her TV, etc. My daughter is very hyper and I have been told by teachers and others that she probably has ADHD. I have talked to her doctor about it, and they can only pu her on medication that will calm her down. However, I don't want to have her on medication if her only problem is that she is hyper and talks alot. Try to explain to her teacher that she could also have ADHD. I did this with my daughters teacher, and she is alot more understanding of her now and actually comes up with ways to keep her attention focussed on school work and not on talking or playing.

My teachers did this to me when I was a kid, and my mother would ask me, "why do you talk so much during school." And I would tell her, "Because I have so much to say." Today they would probably label me ADHD and what not. But truthfully, just cut back on some sugars in her everyday life and realize that she isn't the only one in her class with this problem.

My Son had that problem this year in school,we had to have a conference 3 weeks into school. We tried everything and the only thing that worked for him was that when he feels the need to talk or goof off he pinches himself lightly,Not enopugh to hurt but just to remind him. That has worked for the last week and we are hoping that it will continue to work for him. We also took his privelges away and that just made us all unhappy. He is really proud of himself for doing it all on his own, and he is getting his work done and his privelges back.