My Daughter Talks Constanlty

My 11 year old son is the same way. I can not watch a movie without him narrating the entire show. He is nonstop. I have gotten calls and letters from the school stating he needs to get it together. He has ADHD and has recently stop taking his medicine... But there is no change in his talking. I need advice as well...

I am the mother of five and know what you are going through. Threats after threats and none seemed to work but one. If she socializes in school she can not socialize after school. When ever she brings home a report that says she is talking too much in class; she doesn't go outside or talk on the phone. There is a proper time to socialize and a proper time to do work she needs to learn this. She is responsible for her conduct when she is away from you. If you teach her accountability in the small things in life now she will understand and accept it in the future when it comes to those bigger issues. Start now while she is young you will thank yourself later. Sometimes we as parents feel guilty when disciplining our children Don't !!!!! You will be ok just be patient with the situation it is not the worst thing a child can do.

Don't worry my daugther has the same problem,she'll be 10 in october I think is the age,they are growing pretty fast and want to know every thing.A couple a months ago I spoke with one of my friend, she is Dr. and she told me "to enroll her an every single activity you can find and afford that way she can spend all the energy and she will be able to learn new things,I did that and is helping me a lot.Now I assign chores @ home like washdishes,clean and organize her room twice a week,I teaching her to write and read in spanish and also she is taking extra curriulum clases.

Try a reward system. Start off slow, even talk to the teacher about this. You could have small rewards, ie her favorite food, a small toy,... find things that would entice her that she would want. Have the teacher have a card on her desk that she could make tally marks on it for each time that she has remained quiet for a specific amount of time. Start off small amounts. Example if she has 10 good tally marks then she would get a small treat when she got home. Change it up every 3 to 5 days as far as the amount of tally marks, make it more challenging. When you child sees that she can be rewarded for her good behavior then she will get excited and you will start to see a change. Then start making the times longer until you don't have to reward her every time. You can use the same type of reward system at home too.

She may be more advanced than others and bored with the school work...many gifted children have a difficult time remaining engaged. If this is not the case, she may need consequences for the talking in class... explain to her that if she talks, ______ will be taken away until she gets a positive report. Follow through EVERY time with no exceptions, and make sure to choose the elimination wisely.

H.,

I have a few questions in order to properly give you my thoughts.

Other than just talking to your daughter about her behavior, what other things have you done? For example, taking away free time or not allowing her phone time for every hour she spent talking during class?

Does your daughter realize that she is being rude and disrespectful by talking nonstop while the teacher is speaking or does she think that it is okay to interrupt only because she HAS to get out the juicy news to her friends? Sometimes, kids don't think about what they are really doing. They just act without thinking, you know?

If you wouldn't mind answering those, I would love to help.

maybe she'll grow up to be a politition. seriously, it could add.

Hi H..

I have a nephew that does the same exact thing! My sister decided to put him in some local acting classes, to help him express himself and focus his energy and talkativeness into something creative.

It has done wonders for him! He now knows that his talking at school cannot continue because he has to use his talking in his acting/theater class. He loves the theater stuff so much that he gets his school work done quickly so he can practice his acting.

You should check around your local area for some community kids theaters or any type of activity that your son can direct his energy toward.

Good luck!

Cheers,
A.

Ihave a 10 year old. This stage has just begun for her. Her teacher has started commenting on how "chatty" she is. I think it is a puberty thing or something- being social, etc. I have been researching a little, and found that while we don't want to dorment her social demeanor, we need to fulfill that need to "chat" or socialize in different ways such as in extra-curricular activities- specifically social groups etc.....maybe book clubs, girls scouts, etc. Allow her to organize and plan social gatherings with different people, etc. Try to embrace this characteristic, while continuing to show her that she needs to minimize the talking during class because it is affecting her grades, etc. Continue doing what you are doing- set up her outlets, and then reap the benefits while encouraging her talents- she could be a lawyer, public speaker...so many oppt.- continuing nurturing