My Daughter Not Attached to Me but Her Father?

You posted the very same question about 14 or 15 hours ago and got some really great advise. Were the responses not good enough for you? Again, it's a developmental stage that your daughter is going through. 2-year old girls are naturally daddy's little girls at this age and mamas have to take a back seat. Believe me when I say that you can take care of your daughter right now notwithstanding the fact that she prefers to be with daddy at this time. And when she gets to be a little bit older, her focus will shift and you will be the superstar in her life once again.

Like L. A., indicated in her previous resonse to your original request, the fact that you reposted this request after receiving some really good responses the first time around, has me a little bit concerned about what's going on with you. Like I am saying now and have said before, this is all normal developmental stuff that your daughter is going through. Your reaction to it and your not wanting accept the advise of us seasoned moms who have all gone through this before, needs to be explored and dealt with so that you can have a happy and healthy homelife.

J., what is really going on for you? You've asked this question a few different ways and the answer will not change. Your daughter is becoming her own person - developing as an individual. She became attached to daddy cause he's not normally home, but SHE LOVES THE BOTH OF YOU! She is proably aware that he will not be around so much. It's a phase - most daddys go through it all the time because mommy is the primary caregiver. Once he goes back to work, she will adjust again.

Please talk to your doctor about how you are feeling about this, because your reaction is uncommonly distressed. In your last post, you stated that you thought your daughter "loved daddy too much", which raised a red flag with a lot of moms because it is an extreme reaction. Please do not think that the moms think less of you for feeling that (and if any do, they are weenies and can bug off); listen to the mommies that were worried by it, and take the advice to heart and deal with it. Don't keep reposting and avoiding what's happening. You have to take care of YOU so you can take care of your family.

It will work out.

she is probably enjoying daddy being home, it will probaby be rough for a couple days to a week trying to get back into a new schedule

Hi J.
I wouldn't worry about this.
She is just enjoying the time with her Daddy and he is fully embracing this. Thats a great thing-right?
I love the bond my hubby has with our son and feel blessed that he invests so much time in being a good Dad. My son definely chooses time with his Dad over me at times. I find it funny.
Don't worry your daughter will come to you again.
All the best
B.

they cling to who ever is spending the most time with them. mine alternated between me daddy and bubba. when i wasnt working it was me. when dad was off and i was at work and bubba was at school it was daddy then me and dad were working more than bubba was in school so it switched to bubba. but dont let her slap you put her in time out for that mine is hard of hearing and wouild never attempt it cause he knows that is time out punishment. or bed time which ever. when he goes back to work it will shift back to mama

I was unprepared for how universally girls are "Daddy's girls." I have 4 children, 3 are daughters, and they're all this way. Don't worry, she does love you. And, when Daddy's not around, she'll "settle" for having you do things. ;D It's hard not to feel left out, but it's perfectly normal behavior.

First I would have your husband discipline her when she hits you! That for sure is not ok. Also she will get over it when he is gone, children are resilient and she will adjust fine. I would just have your husband be the one to tell her it is not okay and really be stern when that happens. She is old enough to understand his tone of voice.

My daughter will be three in April. We have been going through this since September, when he took a month off to get to know our newest family member. It's completely natural for kids to prefer one parent over the other from time to time. Don't take it personally, because she doesn't mean any harm. Be as loving and sweet as ever... and keep in mind that you'll be on top again while Daddy is once again left out in the cold.

I wouldn't let her slap me, by the way, but I would ask if I could pick her up.